Hi everyone my husband Bruce died four years ago and I still struggle .

Hello @Paula57, I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. I noticed you are quite new to the forum and I’m hoping you are finding the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.

We have some useful resources on our website, including this article which I thought you might find insightful, even if it simply reassures you that how you are feeling is normal.

I’m not sure if you are aware but Sue Ryder also offers a free bereavement counselling service that could be helpful for you. There is currently a waiting list, but if you would like to find out more, you can do so here.

Keep reaching out Paula and please know that we’re here for you.

Take care,


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Hi sorry for your loss. 16 months for me I think I will always struggle
Take care x

Hello Paula
So sorry for your loss. I do know how you feel as my husband died last year. I think we will always grieve because if you love completely, that love will never die. I am suffering as much now as I did the day he died and I can’t see an end to that either. That is the price we pay for such a love.
I am trying to make a new life for myself. I am soon moving into the apartment of my dreams, overlooking the sea, and that helps. My family absolutely spoils me too! I am perfectly capable of looking after myself, but they still bring meals every now and then and visit often.
I don’t know whether you can make a new life too, but whatever you do, I wish you peace and eventual happiness.


Thank ypun

Thank you it is good reading about all your messages