My dad passed unexpectedly at home in May 2022. I found him laying on his bedroom floor, already gone. Because our home was council, as his only child and i was living with him, the council said i can take on the tenancy, don’t get me wrong, it’s great i have a roof over my head for me and my 2 children but i am still in the house we shared for 27 years, with all the memories. I find it difficult entering his old room as i have flashbacks of the day i found him. I cry every single day 3 years on, i have lost myself, become angry and someone i do not recognise anymore. I went to group sessions at cruse bereavement but was pregnant with my 2nd child at the time and had to cancel the sessions because i had a difficult pregnancy and labour, they told me there that there was a 2 year wait for any one to one counselling. I didn’t put my name on that list to wait. I see the only support out there comes in the form of charities, it doesn’t appear that anyone else wants to help grieving people. GP may make a referral to cruse or failing that, they have been known to prescribe self help books from the library. If anyone can point me in the right direction for support, i would really appreciate that. Thank you for taking the time to read my post x
Hello @Michelle27,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your dad that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might to also look at: Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hello Michelle, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. My mum died unexpectedly in 2024 and I know how hard that is to cope with (I’m still trying). I’ve also struggled to find help for grief, but through my searches I found The Grief Gang https://www.thegriefgang.com/ Amber Jeffrey set it up and she offers 1:1 grief mentoring and specifically themed group circles e.g Father Loss Wednesday evening Father Loss group circle Aug-Sept 2025 — The Grief Gang I haven’t tried Grief Gang myself yet but I follow on Instagram and hear very good things. Might be one to check out. Sending love x
@Michelle27
So sorry you are still suffering but a shock can take a hell of a time to get over.
I don’t know if you’ve tried your local church sometimes they know of places to go.
They have a bereavement course but not starting till September. You might be able to suggest n get one going with them…
That would be really worthwhile n helpful and also something to keep your mind occupied…
It’s a tough journey I know…
I should’ve added my church run a course…
Hi Hayley,
Thank you for taking time out to reply back to me. I am very sorry to hear you lost your mum relatively recently. Also thank you for sharing the links with me, i can see that the griefgang work in a virtual way? I am not keen on showing my face online, i know i will be ugly crying! Also i looked at that second link you shared and closed it straight away after seeing they want £35. Personally i don’t think anybody should be proffeting off someone’s grief. Us grievers are vulnerable and they are taking advantage in my opinion. It’s fantastic if they are helping you come to terms with your own grief journey but i can’t go to them out of principle.
I hope i don’t come across as ungreatful, because i really am, i’m just not sure those links will be beneficial for me x
Hi Mitzi1,
Thank you for taking your time to respond to my message.
I hadn’t thought of going into church and seeking help there, i do feel a little out of my comfort zome but i would be prepared to give it a go. I was just wondering if you would advise a particular type of church? For example i have a methodist church near me, but i’m wondering if a spiritualist church might be better? Or any others you may be aware of who might be able to provide support? I did have trouble finding open churches when i was in the early stages of grief, they seem to open on a sunday or for a short period 1 day in the week. There used to be a time when you could walk into an open church at any time of the day or night and nobody would bat an eyelid, now you struggle to find an open one. I will ask and see if they do courses, i could do with keeping my mind busy. Thank you x
You might find the AtALoss site helpful too, @Michelle27. It helps you find local grief support. If you select East Sussex from the drop-down it shows you what’s available. I can see a few options in Brighton.
I’m guessing you are around 30 from your post? If so, you might be interested in this group:
Let’s Talk About Loss’ was set up by young people for young people. They run peer-led meet up groups in a growing number of cities across the UK for young people aged 18 to 35 who have been bereaved at any stage. It is a safe space to talk through taboos and address the reality of losing someone close to you when you are young. They believe that by meeting other young people who have experienced loss, young people can share their stories and struggles without fear, judgement or awkward silences. They’d love you to join them. Meetings are face to face and virtual, there is a blog on the website and individuals can submit their story be emailing blog@letstalkaboutloss.org.
I hope you find the support you need 
@Seaneen Thank you for responding, i had a look at Ataloss website and i can see there is counselling services very close to me which i will enquire about.
Sadly i’m just slightly over the age of 35 so i’m not sure lets talk about loss will allow me to because i’m almost 38. Thank you for signposting me in the right direction for my area.