Yes life has changed - there isn’t anything to look forward to because we are so used to sharing our lives . I have children and grandchildren so i busy myself with their lives but there is such a lot of my old life I miss. I wish I had a few good things to say about our losses but there isn’t. We just have to carry on and make the best of a bad job - I understand about you feeling lousy because you are poorly but you must try and look after yourself - and keeping drinking and eating even if it’s only little and often - also ring your GP if you need any help with medication -take care
It’s just horrible going through life without our loved one beside us even worse when you feeling poorly hope you better soon never expected to be alone at 66 he was so fit potter around in house keeping it clean and I think what for my family tell me so it’s nice when they come I guess
Take care all it’s ok chat on here not the same as meeting up for a drink is it
Hope your day will be best it can take care xx
Today l feel a lot better and my covid test has come back negative.
My step daughter and 5 year old grandson live close by but they have also had covid so l have not seen them for at least 10 days. My grandson keeps me going but l don’t see much of him. He is at school all week, at his dad’s everyother weekend and all school holidays and l only see him for about an hour every other weekend.
Having to do all the housework, DIY and gardening on my own whilst working full time is not only tiring at my age but very time consuming leaving me very little time for myself. This life of being on my own is not what l envisage at my time of life. I am 63. There is no future to look forward to on your own. I do not have anybody l would call a friend only aquantances and my brother and sisters live 170 miles away. My wife and l liked our own company and we very rarely socialised. We were not ones for going to the pub or elsewhere. I have been invited out twice to a quiz since my wife’s passing. I went but l was lonely without her, especially as everybody else were couples. I have always found mixing and talking to people socially very difficult and l always feel awkward. The future looks so bleak.
Take care all. X
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I am used to sharing my life. I too when it was raining and miserable snugged up with my hubby and watched tv. We were all nice and cosy whilst is threw it down and was freezing outside. We would snug into each other and smile. My husband came from Burma and did not go out unless it was over 15 degrees. I used to call him a fair weather golfer. He would make me smile. He would go out with a scarf hat and gloves on and would have his flip flops on. He never called anything by it’s name it was always what it was used for. Gloves were hand warmers. A scarf was a neck warmer. Undies were ball holders. I do smile Shen I think about this. I miss him so much and life will never be the same. I have to keep trying to make him proud of me honour his memory and never let people forget him. Not that this was possible as wherever he went he made an impact and people just loved him. He was infectious. Our life was a beautiful dance and I never gave it a thought that it would just suddenly stop. It’s so devastating for all of us x
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Hi Nel
That made me smile the names your husband had for things especially undies ball warmers .
My husband was a huge sports fan and seeing the rugby on the telly is making me think about how much he would be enjoying it. If there was a big sport event on his day used to be planned around it. He was very stubborn and if I wanted to go out he wouldn’t budge.
Wish he was here watching it now xx
Hi
My husband loved his rugby he would have me baking so he had a drink and snacks I have found it hard going missing him so much could not watch game without him life is so different it is for us all on here nothing planned for tomorrow a lonely day as many it’s so painful and you realise how alone you are never been alone before in my life hope some of you are copping better xx
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Hi I’m looking after my grandkids tonight and they have been having so much fun and laughing really hard . All I can think is there grands is missing all of this . I miss hubby so much and have been thinking how sad I am but realized how sad it is that he is missing out on his life . I hope he can see them x
I’ve never been alone ever. I have always slept in same bed as my sister and then in the same room when growing up got married and slept in same bed as my husband. I hate sleeping alone. I hate being without him. I seem to panic my way from one day to the next. The anxiety is all consuming. Life feels so lonely without him. X
They say you don’t realise what you had till it’s gone but I did know how lucky we was to have each other life was so good now feel lost empty it’s awful isn’t it x
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