I lost my husband at the end of June 2021. Having struggled on and chatting to likeminded people on here I have gone along with good and not so good days. I have ranted and raved and cried a lot and thought I was going along nicely when wham, this morning I basically woke up crying. I have been upset all day. Today has been so bad that I wished I had not even got out of bed. Since June I have never said that. Will this ever improve? I miss Peter so much it hurts. Is there a way forward?
Sorry you have had a bad day. I lost my husband last August and not a day as gone by without me crying and wishing for my old life back. How do we move on I don’t know the answer to that do I want to move on I don’t want to forget Jim and all the happy times we had and I expect you feel the same about Peter . I to have days when I don’t want to get out of bed but I have to I’m got two dogs that need me and I need them. Hope you have a bit better day tomorrow Mogreg this life stinks doesn’t it . Take care x
I must admit it is very hard going at times. Sometimes I wish I had gone too. I have just been so down today I had to tell someone Moira xx
I too don’t know how to move on. I think I am moving forward and then I wake up crying and can spend the rest of the day crying. I think my tears could fill a river. My eyes are always puffy and I look older since my H passed away. I don’t bother what I wear I just drag leggings on and a jumper to cover my body. I loved fashion but now well it’s not important. I’ve lost enthusiasm for life. I go shopping and buy things and they are still in the cdd as trier bags. It’s all so sad x
Oh Nel I feel your pain. It’s been a year for me next month and there are days when I feel a little better and days when the pain engulfs me and I cannot function. I am trying my best to feel better and then I few guilty for trying. What’s the best way forward who knows but what I do know is that I cannot spend the rest of my life feeling this miserable. I have two sons four grandchildren and a circle of good friends who have been 100% supportive. I’m tired of being sad and tired of thinking “what if” so for my sake and well being I’m plodding on. I keep myself busy, volunteer and swim. It’s not much but a start. Fingers crossed I’m on the right road.
Much love to everyone
There are the words I was looking for ‘lost all enthusiasm for life’. When Peter died most of me did with him.
My husband died sept 21 and same as you been getting along with the bad days and better days. But again the same as you had a strange day yesterday feeling anxious, upset and really low. Woke up the same this morning had a good cry and been fighting back tears all day. I read somewhere that 6 months can be an important stage in the grief process where it can hit you hard again don’t know how true this is. The news is certainly not helping, I’m finding it hard seeing all that is happening in Ukraine and not having mark to talk to about it. He was a big cricket fan so would have been upset about the death of Shane Warne. All just so sad xx