I lost my wife of over 53 years in November last year and I can’t see a way forward at all, I miss her so much and hate being in an empty house. I held her in my arms in the hospice when her heart stopped and she took her last breath. I remember it as vividly as if it was 5 minutes ago! Please tell me that the intensity of it will fade.
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wulliejohn75
I wish I could tell you it gets easier - I lost my husband of 45 years last November. I know how the house feels empty, the silence, the images that remain of final hours. I’m hoping each day will reduce the pain, I don’t feel it yet.
We’ve got to keep going though, we’ve got to.
Do look after yourself you are with friends on this site 
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Sorry for your loss. You’re early on in your grief journey. Everyone is different and no one can tell you when the pain might lessen. I’m almost five months down the line from suddenly losing my partner and I’m broken hearted, crying most days. Everyone on here is on the same journey even if circumstance is different. If you have friends and family ask for help. Try keeping yourself occupied, it’s a distraction. If you’re able, go out for a walk. It’s not for everyone but you might want to consider counseling. Keep posting there’s always someone here.
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Thankyou for reading my post Claudie.
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Thankyou for your kind words.
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Thankyou, I am considering counseling.
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I lost my husband last year we had been together for 43 years he died suddenly from a heart attack, one minute we were having a lovely weekend and then he was gone. To say it was a shock is an understatement its now been 7 months and i went back to work and go out as much as i can. I find keeping really busy helps me, but it still doesn’t take away that feeling when you first wake up and realise you have another day without him. started a group on facebook called the one left behind, the idea is to meet local people going through the loss of a partner and to arrange social events . I truly think as well meaning as everyone has been you cant know what its like until it happens to you. Life changes in a flash, but you have to try and embrace that change and its often through very choppy waters. I wish you all well and if you are interested look up my group on facebook xx
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I feel your pain. I am so sorry . I don’t think it gets easier you just learn how to live with it. Sometimes it’s worse, a song, a memory. Try not to focus on the memories that hurt. Try to distract yourself. It’s so easy to spiral down , to let the pain fill us up. She knows how much you loved and still love her. You are not alone in this