Hello, I haven’t ever done anything like this before or reached out for support in this way.
I am 26 and I lost my Dad a few months ago. He was 61 and it his death has been a struggle. My parents were divorced and my mums side of the family are not the most sympathetic towards him which feels alot harder and like I am alone in the grief I feel.
I hope if anyone who shares a similar experience or has advise would be willing to share with me. Everyone I know hasn’t lost a parent at my age and it just feel at a loss and how I should be reacting.
Thank you all for taking the time to read and love to yourselves, families and friends.
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Hello @Beccat,
Thank you for bravely sharing this with the community, especially as this is the first time you’ve reached out in this way. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad, and that you feel alone in your grief. Please know that you don’t have to deal with this on your own.
I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Loss as a young adult category yet. But there you can connect with other members who experienced the loss of a parent, and who will understand some of what you’re going through.
You might also want to check out Let’s Talk About Loss. They run peer-led groups for 18 - 35 year olds. You can find your local group on their website:
We also have some information on losing a parent which may be helpful, too.
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to share these resources with you and let you know that you’ve been heard.
Take care,
Harriet
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Well done in taking the first step @Beccat
Yes i can resonate. My mums passing in January has dragged up all the old structural problems of the divorce, my father’s passing 14 years ago and all the bitterness and regret that goes with it. In particular his family and the way they behaved towards my mother.
This is probably magnifying how you are feeling.
Are you able to talk to your dad’s family about everything? If you can, you should plan through them to do little things to celebrate your dad’s life. If you can focus on doing 1 thing per week that is a positive celebration of his life, that will give you a focal point.
We all ultimately need to get to that stage of looking back with fondness rather than hurt. Surround yourself with people who are positive about your dad and who share kind memories about him. A few texts to his mates asking about the good times will bound to make you cry but you will start to feel more content that he touched people’s lives in a positive way. That will balance out any negativity you are feeling from the other side.
Just some ideas.
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