Hi you lovely people. I see some who haven’t posted on here for a while have done so more recently and with that in mind I thought I’d reconnect with you all too
Yesterday marked six months since my amazing hubby went on to something much better than our world. Free from drama and suffering and pain and hurt and, everything else negative that we experience on this planet. That’s my hope and belief anyway! That said, he did love life so very much in every aspect and I don’t believe he would ever have left through choice and that’s why I know with every part of my being that it’s his physical presence only that left. In every other sense he didn’t go anywhere.
Of course I miss him every minute of the day and like so many others I would give all I have for us to have back what we had before this nightmare began. Again, like so many others realise, that’s not the way it goes though, unfortunately.
I read the posts on this site and I too feel the hurt and heartache of everyone unfortunate enough to have to write them and yes, often it becomes too much to read of the sadness of so many even though I very much realise all of this is the reality of this life.
I’m sure I will always come back to this forum though simply because I remember so very well the first post I wrote just a few days after my husband died. More importantly I remember so well the love, friendship and genuine empathy I received from those of you who responded to my complete desperation. For that reason alone I am inclined to read and respond to others posts when possible, in the hope that I too can offer something, anything, that may ease the sadness, if only for a second.
I continue, as we all do, on a daily, sometimes hourly basis trying my best to do all the things I did before and all the things I didn’t do before in my husbands name. I continue to try my best to make my man proud of my existence and achievements, no matter how small and, I continue to try to live life for both of us.
I struggle exactly the same as others do, I wish with all my might I didn’t have to do any of this without him but then I remember I’m doing none of it without him. He’s right here.
I also wanted to say that like many others I also find the most comfort and peace and overwhelming love and presence of my man right here in our home, so much so that I’ve gone from initially hating walking into an empty home to getting excited as I return whenever I’ve been out.
Yes, my life and me are changed forever but my God do I continue to love and feel the presence of my man…Oh yes I do. Very lucky me…
Love to you all xxx