So having had 2 ‘alright days’ it’s Sunday and my dad died on a Sunday in March so I always relive the whole day. A massive trigger so not having a very good day today. I’m so sad. I miss my dad with all my heart. This grief is something else…
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Hi @EllieJ Sorry you’re having a bad day & Sundays are a real trigger for you. I don’t know what to suggest other than letting the grief wash over you. Sometimes it’s better that way. I empathise, missing someone really sucks. Just wanted you to know you’re not alone in that. X
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Thank you @Cee . Means a lot. I have gone to the gym
And tried to switch off. It’s the reality of it all isn’t it? Just remembering that I cannot speak/see him again. And of course minute by minute remembering that day until the end. Horrible
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@EllieJ I do the same, try & distract myself but it is hard. Not hearing their voices or seeing them. They become a memory & I struggle with that. Never ever thought I could miss someone so much. I too go over the last day of Dad’s life, almost searching for anything I’ve missed. I think we drive ourselves crazy because we can’t change anything. Take care of yourself. X
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You too. Tomorrow is another day. It’s so nice being able to express yourself to people who understand how you are feeling it really really is - thank you
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Hi @EllieJ I too struggle with Sundays. That was the day that I got Mum and I a coffee and cake from a local deli and I would spend the day with her, putting the world to rights.
Sundays just aren’t the same anymore and its taking me some time to adjust to the ‘new normal’. Its been 5 months since my Mum passed, right now I’m taking it day by day.
Sending hugs
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@Ginger48 thank you. My dad died on a Sunday 6 months ago. Seems like yesterday. I can’t stop thinking this time last year/ this time on 12/3/23. I can’t actually believe it when I write it down or if someone asks me how my dad is? Can he really be gone? We had such a lovely time together and I miss him so very much - it really upsets me - lots of hugs to you too!
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Horrible. Im ok during the week but Saturdays and Sundays are horrid. The house seems so empty. He only went middle July. I miss my dad terribly x
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I find Sundays really difficult too and Mondays .
Just so hard isn’t it x
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I lost my Dad in July too . It’s so awful .
This is the only place I can turn as no one understands x
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I lost my mum in June. I was there for the last couple of weeks before she passed and. I was with her when she died. I keep wanting to call her and tell her about something that has happened to me, or when I need unconditional support and realise she’s not here anymore, that’s when it hits me. I can’t listen to any of the music we used to love and I can’t delve too deeply into my feelings as it’s too painful. I’m just working and keeping busy and trying not to think about her too much.
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@Jojo8 i am exactly the same as you. I lost my dad and I find it hard to listen to music, eat our favourite foods without it triggering my low mood - I can seem to snap out of it once it appears - keep posting on here - it’s amazing having people who feel the same and are good through the same - it makes me feel less anxious
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Thank you, I definitely will. My parents met when they were 12 years old and my Dad is struggling with losing mum. It’s so hard isn’t it?
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@Jojo8 I lost my mum almost 30 years ago but this has hit me so hard. I am assuming perhaps as I had more time with my dad and he became a really good friend as I became older - but yes, the grief is crippling - take care
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@EllieJ, your Dad died just 4 days after mine but strangely I can remember what I was doing on the 12th March. I went out with one of my closest friends as I felt in shock. Nothing made sense. My first weekend without my Dad in the world. Like you, writing that new date, an end date is just so final. Like if I’d known 2022 was going to be his last year. I hope you have a better week. Xx
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