Hi I lost my gorgeous hubby just over 2 months ago , he was my sole mate, my best friend and my gorgeous husband . Life is so cruel we moved to our forever home just over yr ago and he only lived it just over yr x I miss him like crazy every day. We did everything together and could just sit together without the need to talk , we would even think the same , I am struggling
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@nic1969
I am so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here in this situation none of us want to be in.
I think that the closer you were as a couple the harder it is as you lose part of yourself and the invisible support that keeps you standing.
It’s still very early for you and it’s normal to be struggling. You are effectively still in shock so probably will feel exhausted, numb, lost, overwhelmed and huge heavy sadness amongst other things. Don’t expect too much of yourself. Take tiny steps and recognise every little achievement’ getting up, eating etc… Read around the forum and you will probably feel comforted that what you are feeling is natural.
Did you move house in the same area or somewhere new?
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Dear @nic1969
I’m so sorry you have to join us all on here
@Sarie has given you a perfect answer.
Although it won’t help you, do take comfort from knowing that your feelings are very normal and there are a lot of us on here , who sadly understand.
Everyone’s grief is different and unique but if as @Sarie says you read around the site, I’m sure you will find posts that help you a little bit.
Be kind to yourself
Love hugs and strength
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Thanks for your reply, we moved away from his family and my friends, but we keep in touch , little steps are best .
Its like losing half of yourself isn’t it. Things my husband would say just pop into my head sometimes and the yearning for him to be back with me is so strong. How can he be not here anymore? It is so painful.
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I know what you mean I talk to him all the time , if something happens I want to text him x life is hard but we will carry on x
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You’ve got it exactly.
How can they not be here anymore?
It’s disbelief yet mixed with the certain knowledge that they’re not coming back that is so strange and hard to deal with.
Luie was such a vibrant, alive person. How can that not be anymore?
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