Thank you Steph…such a similar situation. My husband literally finished our fitted wardrobes the night before and every morning I look at them and just wonder how is he not here anymore. So unfair …lovely family men just snatched from us and no time to say goodbye. Xx
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Life is so cruel. I look at all of the things he has done in the house and think he’s done all that and now he’s gone. I can’t make sense of it all, one minute here and full of life and then nothing.
Just our memories, at least nothing can take them away x
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Hi Tracie,
I am so sad reading your post and understand so well the emotion behind it.
My husband aged 64 died suddenly last November and on that dreadful evening our happy and secure family life was shattered forever. All our hopes and dreams died with him. I look around our home in which we had spent all our 35 years of marriage and wonder what it has all been for. All those projects undertaken to make life more comfortable, things collected over the years to make the house a home just make the heartbreak so much worse. It was for sharing, now it’s somewhere to maintain.
Like you I miss doing nothing with him. That wonderful contentment of just being with the one you love. Total unconditional love.
So many of us on this forum have suffered the life changing loss of a husband or wife and sadly it seems to increase by the day. Each one of us marooned on our island of grief and desperate to make sense of the world - separate yet connected in the worst way possible.
I can only cope one day at a time. Thinking of what my future holds without my husband is beyond me and like you it fills me with dread.
Like you and Steph, I have lovely supportive grown up children, two sons in my case. Their grief is ongoing and for them too the loss of their lovely dad has been life changing. For their sakes I have to believe in their future while not really believing in my own.
I can’t of course say that to them but I know you’ll understand. You’re right when you say it’s good to write it down and somehow support each other.
Thinking of you x
Thinking of you xx
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Thank you. No-one truly gets it unless they have experienced it. I would not wish this on anyone…it literally is just heart breaking and soul destroying. Like you, I look around our home and worry about keeping everything going, he just did all that stuff. Its so daunting. Sending love to you all going through this horrendous time xx
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I haven’t been on the forum for a while. Hope all of you are managing to find some relief to your grief. Friday 5th June 2020 would have been Penny 
and myself. 49th wedding anniversary. Yesterday the 6th was 7 months since my darling wife Penny passed away. Then I received a text to say that our nephew Barry he was born just before Penny and myself started going out together in 1969. To say he has been diagnosed with Liver cancer and it has spread to lymph nodes and Chest. I myself waiting to hear from my own specialist on the condition of my Prostate cancer. Life has become unbearable at times.
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Dear Freddie107, I just read your post. I am so sorry. I will be thinking of you x
Hi Freddie,
Life is so very cruel, thinking of you x
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Morning Steph. Well it’s Father’s Day tomorrow. Another anniversary 
.David used to love watching Columbo 
.I think we watched it every weekend.So to remember him I got my boy’s a Columbo mug each.
It will make them smile but with fond memories. Then I’m 66 on the 24th .Another birthday without him:pensive:.And on the 8the of July it’s our wedding anniversary and taking flower’s to the cŕem where his name is in the book of remembrance. 
A lot of emotion will be going on.Jeanette.Xx
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Morning Jeanette,
My anniversary is the 8th of July aswell 
I’m dreading it. Yes Father’s Day tomorrow, my girls are feeling sad and anxious about it, it doesn’t help with all the adverts being shoved down our throats on tv. That’s a lovely idea , a columbo mug 
So many dates through the year we all have to face, very hard I’ll be thinking of you on 8th July xx
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Oh!Steph what a coincidence 
I can’t believe it.We were married in 1978.I think we are meant tobe friends?Thinking of you too. We’re in this together dear friend.
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I know 
we were married in 89 , at least we’ll be in it together
Stan with our daughter, Jenny x x x
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What a beautiful photo Mary xx
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Love & hugs Steph.
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Thank you girls. 
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