Simple things are hard

It’s been 4 weeks since I lost my husband of over 40 years. I am really struggling at the moment. I wouldn’t say I feel lonely as I have lots of visitors friends and family and they are a huge comfort. But I do feel alone. I spend so much time just sitting staring into space and just wondering and dreading what the future holds. I am living on my own and no longer can do the simplest things like watching tv and listening to music. It seems futile if I have no one to share it with. I can’t imagine going on holiday on my own and not being able to share an experience with him. Even going into town shopping, he never accompanied me but I would call him a couple of times when I had a coffee and to tell him I was on my way home. I feel as if there’s no one looking out for me and waiting at home to see me. It’s the simplest things that are upsetting me at the moment.


So sad to hear of your suffering. I lost my mum 3 months ago and it’s still raw but easing a little. You are no time at all into your grief. So go easy on yourself. It is only 4 weeks for you. Take one hour at a time, one day at a time. And don’t start looking into the future, it always start to get you depressed. Just concentrate on today, and “be kind to yourself”. Remember that “you” matter. Big hugs. xxx


Yeh that’s so true … missing the most simple things like a little chat , a cuddle , a smile, are the hardest that we miss i think ! Its not huge things its the little things xx


Look at the night and it don’t seem so lonely
We filled it up with only two
And when I hurt
Hurting runs off my shoulders
How can I hurt when holding you
One, touching one
Reaching out, touching me, touching you
Sweet Caroline
These words describe my husband and myself. We’ve been together since we were 15 and married 61 years. I have so many people there for me and I love them all but we lived for each other and now he’s gone. No one had the right to take him from me so sudden. Cancer for a few weeks then he died. He was so worried about me he knew how I’d be without him. I’m lost I feel lost I want to see his smile feel his arms around me stroke his head talk non stop. I know you all know what I mean I feel so sorry for everyone who’s going thru the same pain. People say sorry for your loss it’s true I’m lost without my darling man I’ll never have anyone love me in that way again.


Just how I feel hate going anywhere we went together heart is broken x