Since losing my mum I’ve lost everything

Losing a parent
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My life is riddled with imperfections & problems and since losing my mum I’ve been going downhill at a steady pace.

I’m 19 & I lost my mum 2 years ago, she was my only family member. I have a dad, but our relationship kinda isn’t all there. Since losing my mum, I lost most my friends in the process. I have no cousins, aunts, uncles siblings that I’m close to. I’ve lost my passions, I don’t work and find it hard to do anything without her. I struggle to make new friendships and relationships and I’m struggling to pick myself back up being so alone and unmotivated.

I’m craving a mother figure or a best friend in my life with unconditional love, so badly. I miss her so much and I’m lost on what to do. I feel like I’m so behind compared to everyone else to the point it’s affected my relationship with my partner, by putting to much pressure and time on him.

I feel everything has fallen apart without her. I miss coming home to dinner on the table, laundry washed and finding a small trinket in my room that she bought because she thought of me when she was out. I miss having a mother to laugh with, go shopping, get our nails done, spend time with as a woman.

I feel so alone, I miss being able to spend time with friends.

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Hello @melon51,

Thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. You’re not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Loss as a young adult category yet. But there you can connect with other members who experienced the loss of their mum and who will understand some of what you’re going through.

You might also want to check out Let’s Talk About Loss. They run peer-led groups for 18 - 35 year olds. You can find your local group on their website:

Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through]

I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to share these resources with you and let you know that you’ve been heard.

Take care,
Alex

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I feel like I have lost myself I lost my mum April this year to cancer it was just me and her the rest of my immediate family have all passed I’m used to death but I have never felt this much pain, I cry constantly my heart hurts and no one around me can truly understand

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