Dear Jay, This almost sounds like my story except we were married for 8 years and had the same plans. We waited a few years before we bought our home. We were flooded out the very first month. WE basically worked hard to furnish it and make into a home. She lived in it for only 4 years and 6 months. She had plans to decorate and improve it. She painted, bought new furnishings etc. She told me a year ago that she loved me and our home. I worked hard on the yard work, repairs and basically finding ways to save money plus we went out each month to a Polish Polka Bar we we learned to Polka dance as well as a few waltzes.
We got to know the patrons (mostly a middle and upper aged group) We got along well with them. When died, there were many who cried, because they remember her being a graceful dancer - she had learned dancing as a child - I just developed courage to learn - besides she always made me look good.
We would exchange stories of our past and family feuds at times. I once had too many beers one night, and slipped on the ice -I was embarassed, she told me don’t worry about it as she helped me into the house. I kept telling her that I felt she really deserved a better man than me because she was so kind and loving to me. After I told her that, she looked me in the eye and told me yes, you do deserve me. She never held a grudge or stopped speaking to me… After she died, I wanted to tell people that I felt at times, that I was married to angel. (That doesn’t mean she was perfect, we had our spats but they never lasted). She just retired and we were going to start living. Life hasn’t been the same since - though I do go thru the motions of caring for myself, the house and doing the family and inlaw stuff. Like I said previously, I didn’t think we were going to fall in love and be married. It just happened that way. We had setbacks, but we had fun too!
If I could do it over again, I would! OK Jay, I will end here for now. Take care!