My wife passed away on the 21st December 2021, she passed away peacefully in our bed.
Am I being silly, I’m finding to very hard to sleep in our bed the one my wife passed away in?
If I get a new bed will that make things a little better?
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Any sudden death is a huge shock but to wake up to find that your wife had died in your bed, that is immense, so no you are not being silly. I know it’s not the same but my husband died here in our lounge which had been cleared of its normal furniture and had his hospital bed and other hospital stuff. As soon as I could I moved lounge furniture back in but in a different places to the way we had it beforehand. It has helped but I still see the hospital bed. My thoughts are with you and Oh I do hope you find a resolution.
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No you’re not being silly. I agree with the previous post to have you’re wife pass away next to you like that is a huge thing and if changing your bed helps then do it. Whatever works for you , My partners death was not sudden or unexpected as she had cancer. although I always believed right up to the end that she would be cured, We moved to her brothers house in the country because this is where she wanted to be. Like the previous post a hospital bed was delivered and put in our room. The carers helped her during the day but at night I looked after her sleeping on a bed in the same room. Thats where she passed away. I’m still staying here in the same room. Of course the hospital bed has gone but strangely its gives me comfort to know that I’m in the last place she was but although I do appreciate its not quite the same as your situation I’ll repeat what I said before do whatever you need to ,to help you because we’re all different. Best wishes to you tjs633. I’m sorry for your loss. My partner of 28 years passed away 2 months ago. Everybody on here understands.
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Hi
Similar to some of the posts, my beloved husband passed away in our sitting/dining room. He to had cancer and was in a hospital bed. I cared for him day and night, surviving on 2 hours sleep, I would do it all over again as I love him with all my heart. I used to drain his chest every day and he would have no other person to help, he just wanted me. I held his hand until his last breathe all day on that Sunday before he passed at 1:07 early hours of the Monday morning. I relive that day over and over in my head. The bed has obviously been taken away but as I sit on the sofa that’s all I can picture. It’s been 7 weeks now and the feelings are still continuing. I hate being in the house but I fear going out, I’m in a deep dark hole and just want the ground to swallow me.
Sharon
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So sorry for you ,just do whatever you think will help I know it’s not easy making decisions but whatever is right for you is all that matters take.care
One week ago today my wife Marie passed away, was doing well until today, it’s just hit me, she’s not coming back, I keep looking at the bed and remembering her lying there peacefully, I want to cry but for some reason I can’t, it’s alright friends and family saying their there for me but it’s not the same.
I feel so lost and alone and yet I know I’m not alone at least.
Thanks for the support. Tim
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Sharon, I feel for you so much. It’s been 7 weeks since my husband died of cancer in a hospital bed in our sitting room and like you I loved and love my husband with all my heart and always. I have no other words of comfort but these and no one can take the pain away.
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Tim - I lost June my wife five weeks ago. June was sat opposite me at the kitchen table when her head dropped onto her left shoulder. I jumped up and ran to her but could not get any response. June died in my arms. June died due to a previously undiagnosed matter. Her death was peaceful and quick. June had suffered Multiple Sclerosis for decades and survived Cancer surgery. I u derstand your feelings completely as I have the same with the table I am typing this message on. Take care and stay strong. There are a lot of good people on this site.
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I sleep in bed my wonderful husband passed away in and I get comfort from that but whatever makes you comfortable lv annie
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My husband died at our place of work. I’d worked there for 26 years. My last memories were not good and my family thought it would be detrimental to my mental health to go back. Resigned but now job hunting again aged 61. Finding it stressful and still early days since my husband passed suddenly in September 2021.
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The first anniversary of my husband passing is coming up …he died suddenly on his way home from getting a morning paper nothing to warn us just gone…I watched paramedics working on him …3 doors away from home…so when I see where he died all I see is 5 yes 5 paramedics working on him …that’s the last memory of him ……coming up in September is the 20th anniversary of my son who died here in my lounge of cancer …we had a bed down here and with help from nurses nursed him the last 4weeks of his life…he was 34. Then we had him home in his coffin for 3 days …old fashioned but it’s what I wanted…I c,an visualise him in the bed and coffin and it doesn’t upset me ….he wanted to come home to die and we gave him that. But to see him out of pain was the main thing to us. But the shock of losing my hubby with no warning I cannot yet come to terms with and cannot believe it’s nearly a year…so that’s my story and I suppose not much help to you…I pray you can come to an answer to what decision about your bed. Roy always sat in his chair in same place….it was an old chair I have replaced it but the new one is in same place and we still call it Roy’s chair…xxx