I am getting no sleep at all it’s a nightmare lucky if I get one hour a night .
I refuse to take sleeping tablets.
Any one any ideas on how to sleep …
It’s 11 months this week week since I lost my wife
It’s getting worse not better .
Time heales is a myth it most certainly dose not…
My old life is over and my new one is a living lonely he’ll.
I wish it was over …
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Fred123
It’s only 6 weeks since Gary passed and I am the same, I am on sleeping tablets but they only get you off to sleep, they don’t keep you asleep. I sometimes have music called keeper of dreams on, it’s relaxing, might help. Your mind is racing. Take care x
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Do you like to read Fred? I find that having a read makes me sleepy and I manage to sleep a bit better now (it’s been 10 months for me). I still wake up every two hours or so, but it’s better than it was.
Also, as you say “time heals” is definitely not true. All that happens is there is more time between us losing our partners & now. The pain will always be there.
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Totally agree with you my friend.Your last line sums it all up for me. Michael x
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Sounds like a good idea,if it works for you then it is a good idea. Michael x
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Fred123,I agree with everything you said,it’s been 12weeks since my husband passed away nothing is getting any better it’s only getting worse,I’m struggling to carry on without him finding it hard to do anything but sit and think of our plans never now to fulfil
My heart is broken never be fixed,we were married 51yrs,I’m lost,feel vulnerable finding it hard to carry on miss him so much
Christine
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Its 5 years since my Jan went, and I 'm still not sleeping well. I some times drop off watching tele, I did the other day, I woke and thought Jan must have gone into the bedroom, because of my snoring. but then I remembered she was not there.
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OMG please dont tell me this will last 5 years ,I cannot take it that long.Only been 12 weeks since I lost lovely Judith to that evil cancer. Michael x
Mickey, I 'm afraid this is my experience . It is not the same for everyone. This year has been harder , because it is 5 years, and because this would have been our 60th wedding anniversary. I miss my Jan so much, I don’t think that will end until the day I die. I still pray for her to come back, but I know she can’t. I hope you can get to cope better than me. TonyM.
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Hi Tony,thanks for your message,you were so long together,32 years for me,we miss our ladies so much ,it hurts so much ,I am crying my eyes out writing this to you.I do not know what to do I cannot cope with this life . My grief is getting worse day by day.I miss her more everyday. It is so unfair to be left alone ,I want to be with her again. Michael x
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Mickey, I can understand how you feel. I shed tears every day, wishing she were here. I keep going because my children, although they are grown up, married and have their own older children.
I am lucky to have brothers and sisters as well, plus Jan’s family include me in their plans. But I still feel so alone. I feel that it should have been me, not my Jan. She was so full of life, until the cancer took over. look after yourself as best you can. I know how hard it is. TonyM.
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Hi I have no siblings to help me through this.I too feel like you ,it should have been me ,Judith was the same so full of life and like you my Judith was taken by cancer,that eveil thing that takes so many and so many since Covid came into our lives.It is hard my friend ,life will never be the same . Michael x
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No it will never be he same, ever again. All we can do is try hard to keep going, until its our turn.
Hopefully those that grieve for us, can get over it quicker than we can.
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Trouble is Tony I do not want to keep going with this lonely life. Without my lovely Judith I have no life . Michael x
Mickeyboy31
I’m only 53 and Gary was 58, I to don’t want to continue with this lonely life. I exist not live. The only reason I’m here is for the sake of our daughter who although an adult has lost her dad so it would destroy her if she lost her Mam as well . I just want to be with Gary, he is my soulmate. Someone has been found having taken their life near to where I live, I can understand why they may have done it but it would be so cruel to those they leave behind. Hopefully my heart will just give up and then people can grieve for me without any guilt on my behalf
Always here
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Hi Sharon,what a sad story, I have thought about it also,got to get through Xmas yet. I just wish Judith could be with me this Xmas.I am heartbroken. Love Michael x
Hi Fred, I too have problems sleeping, I fall into an exhausted sleep and then wake between 2 and 3am. I have downloaded a podcast called Nothing Much Happens, basically it’s gentle calming stories for adults and helps switch off your mind. Give it a try.
I lost my husband 8 months ago.
Take care x
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Mickeyboy31 ad TonyM, Same here guys. 5yrs come April. Feel more empty now than than ever before. Facing another lonely Christmas alone. Three kids which have little to do with me, thinking i should be over it all. I do sleep at night, but always have soft meditation music playing quietly all night. Always an effort to get up in the mornings, to face another pointless day…John
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