My first Christmas alone after 27years so lost,haven’t put a tree up can’t face it,can’t be bothered sending cards, feel like curling up and sleeping for a long time.
It’s my first Christmas alone ever but we lived in this house for 42 years and my wife died in August. I’m going to stay with one of my daughters. The house will be silent for the first time. There used to be six of us and two dogs and it was noisy and full of fun.
Can’t wait until it’s all over lost my partner in May just me and my boy’s it’s just another day to me.
Christine x
So sad words fail me ,I am glad your not on your own, stay safe ah
It is also my first Christmas without my husband after 27 amazing years. He passed away on 2nd December. Christmas is cancelled for me this year.
Same as, Christmas can jog on this year. Lost my wife Oct. Hopefully I won’t make the new year. Miss her so much x
This is my first Christmas without my husband for 50 years, he died in March, 2 days after our 50th wedding anniversary. Dave loved Christmas, I had to put up a massive tree and loads of decorations and we started to eat minced pies and listen to Christmas songs weeks before Christmas Day. On Christmas morning he was like a big kid opening his presents.
Although I haven’t felt like it, in his memory I’ve put up the tree and decorations, I cried all the time I was doing it but I’m glad I made the effort because I know he would be happy I did.
Try to make the best of every day even though it’s hard going a lot of the time, eventually you will remember the one you lost with smiles instead of tears.
Hi
My first Christmas without Margaret for 30 years she died in July. She loved Christmas and had trees and lights everywhere. I’ve reluctantly put a tree up for my kids and I know it looks a little pathetic compared to what Margaret did but it’s all I could muster and at least I tried.
Willing
For my Art group this week I had to tale something in which was important to me in relation to Christmas and I had to draw it. The hardest bit of that was rooting through “the Christmas Box” and finding something. Every year we put things back in the box and I always wondered if I would be here to take them out again. I didn’t ever mention that to my wife. I settled on a very old carved Father Christmas that has been handed down through the generations. He is dressed in a green robe and he holds a golden bell. It caused quite a stir at the Art Group and he is now sat on the mantlepiece. He looks so jolly. He was very difficult to draw. I also found a carved reindeer and he is in the other room. That’s my token Christmas done.
Know exactly how you feel. Lost my fiance of 20 years in July and then lost my mother last Thursday on what should have been his 60th birthday. Last thing I want to do is celebrate Xmas and New year and it makes me angry hearing people passing the house going out to enjoy themselves withought a care in the world. After mum’s funeral I’m going to lock myself in the house until it’s all over.
So sorry to hear that,it really knocks the sails out of you but somehow we have to find the will to carry on .
Thank you, I have to find the will to carry on because I promised Tim I would and I don’t want to let him down.
I am the same some how I have to carry on with loving the kids and grandkids. How I don’t know, I’m so shit without her. Xxx
I am the same as yourself even though there are people around I feel so alone, I am glad I have the grandkids they just about keep me going
Hi Stevie
You put it so good as I’m also shit without Margaret. She knew instinctively what the kids needed and what was going on in their lives. I was just noise in the background now I’m trying to be mum and dad to my kids and failing miserably just so lost.
Take care
William
I used to tell my wife that she was the glue that held the family together. I’ve been surprised as to how together my four kids are and that maybe I over estimated the role their mother played. I took a back seat and just passed the phone over. I was often absent working, or playing, and she was left to nurture and socialise them. I know realise that I can’t abdicate and that they need me in the same way as I need them. I wasn’t a great father, probably too self centred, but I’m trying hard to step into the breach and doing all sorts of things that are a bit alien to me.
I feel the exact same way. Don’t want to make it to the new year. I am 29 and lost my husband february this year. I miss him so badly. I cannot bear to go shops with christmas music. I haven’t put up a tree or any christmas decorations. I went into sainsburys yesterday and couldn’t stop crying everytime i saw something that we would have normally bought for Christmas together. I have no kids and i wish we did so that i could have seen him in them and had a reason to go on.
I feel the exact same way. Don’t want to make it to the new year. I am 29 and lost my husband february this year. I miss him so badly. I cannot bear to go shops with christmas music. I haven’t put up a tree or any christmas decorations. I went into sainsburys yesterday and couldn’t stop crying everytime i saw something that we would have normally bought for Christmas together. I have no kids and i wish we did so that i could have seen him in them and had a reason to go on.
So sorry for your loss. Yeah it’s so hard. Having kids and grandkids makes having people around easier but whem I’m with them I feel sad and guilty Denise is not with us. People are always saying you have to carry on for them. Of course I get that but im having to live like this forever xxx
So sorry for your loss. My husband died in December 2nd this year. I miss him more than words can ever say but I think that Tim gives me the strength and reason to carry on everyday like he always has. I try to think what would Tim do or say, it helps me get through the day.