Hi. I lost my husband 2 weeks ago and I am really struggling. I have friends & family but nobody understands how I’m feeling. All the things we did together and the plans we had. I just feel incredibly lonely. I can’t imagine life without him. I’m 55 but feel like my life will never have any meaning again.
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Hi Jan17,
I’m so sorry for your loss.
My husband died 2 months ago. I’m 42 and you’re right, unfortunately people are unable to understand and it is very lonely.
I do feel though we have a tremendous ability to cope with horrible, traumatic things happening to us…and we can get used to a new way of living and being.
It’s not what we chose though I know 
…keep the faith things will improve, you will start to move forwards bit by bit to an easier place xxxxx
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I understand exactly how you’re feeling as many of us do on this forum.
I thought I’d let you know that being on here really lets you know that you aren’t on your own with this horrible torturous journey called bereavment.
It also helps you figure out the feelings you’re feeling are completely normal and you’re not going crazy.
I lost my beautiful mum 5 weeks ago, never know pain like it.
Please keep reaching out cause I feel it does help even if it’s a little bit x
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Thanks@butterfly4. I really want to hope that things will improve with time but I’m finding it impossible at the moment. Life seems to have stopped. Xx
I’m sorry for your loss. Thankyou for your kind words. Xx
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So sorry you find yourself here @Jan17 . I know is it is so hard, my husband died in January and have learnt to take a day or an hour at a time. Like @butterfly4 says I think we do somehow find the resilience and strength to cope, we just need patience, support and time. The people on here do understand, and will help you on your journey, as they help me xxx.
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Hi. I totally understand too. 4 weeks for me. I thought I wouldn’t get through one day, but somehow the days go by. I don’t feel any better, still in shock as it was so unexpected and the funeral is still 10 days away due to post mortem.
This site has helped me to see that what I feel is the same as so many other people.
My life is totally shattered and I hate it. I just exist. All we can done is let our bodies just work like a machine for now and hope one day the pain eases. But we are all here for each other. X
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Jan 17 that’s ok that you’re finding it impossible at the moment… completely understandable…I’m sure I did that early on, 2 weeks is nothing…and I’m sure I’ll feel like that again numerous times on this journey. Sending u lots of love but I wish I had a magic wand for u, me and all of us here xxxxx
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Blooming heck never seen it like that, definitely agree to our bodies working like a machine at the moment!
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I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband died 6 months ago and it’s so sad. I’m sending you a huge hug and know that I care. 
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How are you finding it 6 months in?xxx
I’m still struggling after 6 months, but I have good days when I can function and get things done. It’s still hard to believe he won’t be coming back though. xx
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Yeah, 6 months is not long at all. Is hard to believe that’s it, I thought I saw my husband for a split second in the house again today. I wonder if we miss them more as time goes on, as it’s then been even longer since we were with them xx
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Oh yes those first weeks are awful … i thought i was gonna have a heart attack.the pain in my heart was that bad ! Awful really the affect grief can have on our bodies ! 
xx
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Yeh i do that in my minds eye i can see him walking down the road sometimes … the vision is so clear
I wish it really was him ! I would give anything to see him again ! Xx
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I keep thinking I’m dying from grief, it’s simply awful. I’ve recently had a ecg test cause I went to the doctors with the heartache and they came back normal but my heart still continues to hurt. I’ve also got such a sore neck from all the tension.
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Yeh its so weird isnt it how it can affect our bodies …
I kept getting a tightness in my body cos of the stressed muscles !! Awful xx
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Hi
It is such early days for you. My heart goes out to you. I lost my husband when he was 62 and I was 60. It was totally out of the blue, no warning, he had a pulmonary embolism, collapsed and died. The shock was terrible. He was my soul mate, we did everything together.
It was 17 months ago, I am still shocked. When I was only 2 months in I didn’t think I would survive it. I can tell you that I have survived and you will as well. I have more good days than bad, although tears are still just below the surface. This website helped me and I still look at it from time to time. Everyone here has experienced something similar and can help you feel like you are not alone.
You are allowed to feel sorry for yourself. Try and keep going, it will get easier. X
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Thank you for your post @Sky, it is you and others on this site who give us ‘newbies’ hope for ourselves and for the future, I hope in time I will be able to do the same as you. xxx
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Thinking of you. X
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