I lost my partner of 16 years on 17th November. I have had family with me up till now. I am dreading being on my own. It is coming up to Christmas and everyone is with their partners/ husbands. My partner was my main and best friend. I am only coping by doing necessary paperwork and not thinking about him. I can’t face up to the real grief yet, which comes when I’m alone. We didn’t live together, only a few miles apart, though, and I missed him if we had an evening apart. We saw each other virtually every day.
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Hello @Marissa ,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your partner that brings you here. Holidays and special occasions can be an especially painful time - and often even more so when they’re the ‘firsts’. Please know that there is lots of support available if you need it. We have advice and support on coping with grief at Christmas on our website.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing I can say will make it better but being here in this community has helped me even if it’s just to rant about the unfairness of it all.
Please keep posting & hopefully you’ll find a tiny bit of solace.
Sending love 
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I’m sure this group will help. Sharing thoughts with people who are in a similar situation is good.
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I lost my partner on the 5/11 it’s so hard . So much to do I’ve been on autopilot, I don’t sleep or eat properly. The grief and pain is overwhelming. I can’t remember all the good times just the end . Hope it gets better soon.
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So sorry for your loss, I lost my beautiful man 4 months ago & all I can think about is the last two painful weeks not the wonderful 25 years. I hoping to get therapy soon as the thoughts in my head are destroying me & my memories.
I hope you can find something to help you through
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I’m very sorry to hear of your loss and grief. Have you got family or friends to help you? Or perhaps a dog? It is especially hard at this time of year when everyone else is looking forward to Christmas. Sending you a virtual hug.
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