I lost my wife on the 29th of January. We were married for 37 years and together for 46 and I’m feeling totally devastated.
She died on our 37th wedding anniversary. She had multiple sclerosis for 25 years and hadn’t left the house in more than a year. She also had quite advanced dementia which was extremely distressing and difficult to deal with. We thought she could have died anytime in the two weeks before she went. I was with her constantly but had gone into the kitchen for a few minutes and when I came back she had stopped breathing. It doesn’t matter how much you know it’s going to happen it’s still a shock. Now when I think of her I feel a vast emptiness. She was my purpose in life for 46 years and taking care of her the last year filled my day. On Wednesday I’ve organised a day to celebrate her life with music, poems and songs.
I’m grateful for the fact that she died before me and at home taken care of by Hospice at Home.
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Hi @Nara ,
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Alex
Caring for your partner at home does give some comfort doesn’t it. My husband came home for end of life care and we nursed him for 10 days with just the district nurses coming in to sort pain control. Nothing prepares you for that emptiness when your partner passes away and you are right in saying you lose your purpose. It’s been 9 months for me and it is no easier now, harder actually. It’s ok not to be ok, I actually never say I’m ok when people say how are you because I’m not.
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