Still Crying

Coping with bereavement
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It’s 4 years and 4 months since I lost my partner.
Although life has somewhat got back to normal (if it ever will be normal again without him) the tears still fall.
I was driving home this morning and a song that is special to me came on the radio and I just burst into tears. Still crying sitting here thinking about him and missing him so much.

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Hi Alone1,
I’m so sorry to hear that things are still difficult after losing your partner. I lost my civil partner nearly 3 months ago and have cried more than I ever have in my life.
A friend who also lost their partner several years ago warned me that certain things will trigger tears and sorrow for many years to come and that they seem to appear from nowhere. Music, smells, films, certain flowers, and much more do this to me.
I think unexpected grief and tears and something we have to learn to live with and it only reenforces the love we shared and the sorrow we have now that they are gone.
Wishing you strength and sending you love.

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MC63
So sorry for the recent loss of your partner and sorry for the pain I know you are going through. Sending you a comforting hug.
Thank you for your kind words.
Take care and stay strong x

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Dear Alone1
I am so sorry for your loss. It’s certainly a rough path that we now have to tread.
I lost my wife suddenly to a heart attack six months ago, we had been married for 48 years. I too find music very triggering and, as you have found, a song can catch me off guard.

Sometimes when I feel inconsolable I try to remember how lucky I am that we found each other. Someone who I loved so much, someone who loved me so much. Would I have forgone that relationship to avoid the pain? Of course not!
Take care.

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I lost my husband five years and 6months ago…i hate life without him and not a day goes by that i don’t yearn for him.
I guess thats what love does do to you but life goes on and so must we and think how lucky and blessed we were to find such love.
Sorry for a morbid reply mornings so hard.
Love to all and one day we will find peace X

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