So sorry to hear of your loss, the journals are a great idea, I have nearly filled my second one. My husband, Alan, passed away May last year, 38 hours after I’d been given his latest test results, thankfully he didn’t know. We celebrated our golden wedding anniversary March, 6 weeks later he passed away.
It is good that you have seen signs that your husband is with you, I have always been a believer in the spirit world, the signs can be subtle at times, yet they always get your attention. Writing in your journal will help keep him close, I write as though I am having conversations with him, the random thoughts I receive I take as his replies. These journals have helped me tremendously, likewise everyone on the forum too. We are all travelling the same enforced road, a road none of us wanted to travel. There’s no time limit on grief and we all help each other as best we can.
It is early days for you, I won’t say it’s going to be easy, it isn’t. I still shed tears daily and have done these past 14 months, some days I’m in floods, the least little memory jog can set me off. It was months before I could watch tv, then it was with the sound on mute. Still can’t listen to certain songs or artists, nor can I watch certain programmes or films. I talk to Alan constantly, what I have found is that the memories that keep popping up are all good memories, I cannot remember any bad times we may have had, and each day I love him more than the day before, if this is possible.
Everyone here knows what you are going through, we’re all going through the very same. If you want to vent off, then you’re in good company and at the right place, if you want to talk about your husband, likewise.
Taking things a day at a time is all any of us can do, some days it is taking each hour an hour at a time, rollercoaster days are quite common too.
Hooe you keep posting in here and find all the help and comfort you need.
Blessings
Jen☆