Hello everyone i joined today because i lost my mum 13 weeks ago and i dont think im coping so well. I feel like im just floating through each day riding all my emotions and just crying, crying, crying. We got the result of the coroners inquest today which has just left me with more questions, more guilt. I miss her so much but i cannot think about her without breaking down - is this normal? Im finding im constantly distracting and burying my thoughts so that i can cope. Has anyone else felt like this?
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
I am so sorry for your loss. I fully understand how you feel and the idea of floating day to day I can relate to. It has been 5 months since I lost my mum suddenly. I had a wait for coroners as well and with no brothers and sisters I think I have just been burying the majority of my grieving behind admin, sorting and keeping myself busy. Initially I thought that would be the best way to cope - my coping strategy of pushing it away but I think you need to let your emotions in and crying and thinking about your mum is right. In the last few weeks I have found myself getting more emotional again and I think that is expected.
You just need to be kind to yourself as it is still early. This community has been really useful to me in the last couple of weeks, I can see so many people experiencing the similar feelings and emotions and can ask questions or share my feelings (something I’m not that good at). Take care.
It was my husband’s inquest last week. I now have to accept the results accident even though he was at the end stage of prostrate cancer. I cry every day and I don’t know when this stage will get better. I have to get up each day to feed the dogs and try to get through each day. I do think now the inquest is over that I will begin to move forwards each day.
Hello, sorry things are so hard for you at the moment. You’ve suffered a devastating loss very recently so all your emotions are quite normal. Have a read of other posts on this forum and you’ll see you aren’t alone. The online resources are also very useful. Take time to process everything, there’s no timeline for grief and it’s a rough road to travel. Best wishes xx
Hello and thank you for your reply, I am learning to take one day at a time
Hi, thank you for your response. For me its normal to bury what I struggle to deal with but I know I have to try to be better at that. Im pleased to hear you are letting your emotions in as I know how hard that is for some of us. This site really has helped me in reading other people’s support and advice and I will get there slowly
Hi, thank you for your reply and so sorry you lost your husband. Waiting for the result from inquest is so difficult and like you say hopefully you can now start to move forward.
I lost my dad in February and im still struggling to accept hes gone
I put on a brave face and carry on with work,family etc but its a battle
We scattered his ashes on fathers day which although beautiful just brought every emotion back to the surface
I look at my 3 siblings and they seem to be coping alot better than me
When my dad passed my daughter gave me a book to write down how i was feeling,when i look back at that book i realise how far i have come even though it doesn’t feel like it
Hi everyone…all of the above sounds quite normal to me…keeping busy, breaking down, bombarded with uncomfortable emotions, auto piloting, etc…we just have to get through each days as best we can, then get up and do it over again.