Struggling feeling ashamed

Is it wrong and selfish to grieve?? Shouldn’t I be happy that they’re gone and possibly not hurting? That they don’t have to deal with the world, depression, financially, mentally, emotionally, physically, emotionally, struggling??

Missing and grieving feels narcissistic and selfish. It feels all about me instead of them.

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We will feel all of the above. We have lost our soul mate. We are happy they are no longer struggling but that does not mean we are not going to struggle and be sad that we have lost our soul mate Our lives are totally changed and we have to navigate life alone hopefully with support from good friends and family. It been two years for me and I cried so much this morning because I miss him so much. I seem to cope for weeks and then wham the grief hits like a tsunami. Sending hugs x