Struggling to accept loss

My lovely dad passed a few days ago, he had several infections and he started to beat it, I was so hopeful and then he got another infection and he couldn’t hold on. It happened so quick.

What I am struggling with is that shortly before he passed he was scared of dying and I couldn’t be there to comfort him or do anything to help. 12hrs before his passing he became what seemed like unconscious and I hope he was not aware of anything. I miss the little things and just seeing him there, I want to hug him and tell him everything will be ok. I’m not sure how to make peace with this. Any tips?


Hello @Happycamper,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your dad that brings you here. Your loss is so very recent that you will be experiencing a range of emotions - please do be gentle with yourself…

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

You may also find some comfort in our Losing a parent support page.

Take good care and keep reaching you - you are not alone.


Thanks Sean, I’ll check through those links.

Hi Happycamper,
Sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. My dad passed 6 weeks ago. It still doesn’t feel real. Like you I am really missing my dad and I am desperate to hug him again. I found some comfort by writing him a letter. It enabled me to get my thoughts out of my head and say what I wanted to say to him. I then put the letter and some photos with him when I went to the chapel of rest so they were always with him. I have also found this site useful as I feel more comfortable telling people on here how I feel than I do to people I know.
Take care
Vicky xx

Hi Vicky, that’s a good idea about the letter. I think sometimes that if thought are left in your head they can become overwhelming. I think I may try and write a few words on paper and give it to him along with something else of mine.

Hi i kept a journel on how i was felling and still write in it now . I find it helps me as you cant fully explain to ppl how u feel . I lost both my parents within 6 months last year .

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