My lovely dad passed a few days ago, he had several infections and he started to beat it, I was so hopeful and then he got another infection and he couldn’t hold on. It happened so quick.
What I am struggling with is that shortly before he passed he was scared of dying and I couldn’t be there to comfort him or do anything to help. 12hrs before his passing he became what seemed like unconscious and I hope he was not aware of anything. I miss the little things and just seeing him there, I want to hug him and tell him everything will be ok. I’m not sure how to make peace with this. Any tips?
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your dad that brings you here. Your loss is so very recent that you will be experiencing a range of emotions - please do be gentle with yourself…
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Hi Happycamper,
Sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. My dad passed 6 weeks ago. It still doesn’t feel real. Like you I am really missing my dad and I am desperate to hug him again. I found some comfort by writing him a letter. It enabled me to get my thoughts out of my head and say what I wanted to say to him. I then put the letter and some photos with him when I went to the chapel of rest so they were always with him. I have also found this site useful as I feel more comfortable telling people on here how I feel than I do to people I know.
Take care
Vicky xx
Hi Vicky, that’s a good idea about the letter. I think sometimes that if thought are left in your head they can become overwhelming. I think I may try and write a few words on paper and give it to him along with something else of mine.
Hi i kept a journel on how i was felling and still write in it now . I find it helps me as you cant fully explain to ppl how u feel . I lost both my parents within 6 months last year .