Struggling to carry on

It started with the loss of my dad suddenly 10 years ago , it bought me and my 2 older sisters closer as they had lost their dad couple years before. And we had to care for mum , last October my eldest sister been ill with a bug , she was found unconscious by her children and rushed to hospital , she died the next day , Leaving me and my sister distraught , we became like one , then she collapsed in April , within 2 days we were told she had terminal cancer , and died 8 weeks later , I had not got over my other sister , and now there were 8 nieces and nephews without their mums , I am the only auntie left , My mother has dementia so can’t talk to her about any of it , and I can’t move on , I find myself just crying and asking why every day , just don’t know how to cope with it all , my husband has been so supportive but it’s not enough , they were both young 63 abd 58 , we should have grown old together .


Welcome to the Sue Ryder Online Community. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve lost your dad and your sisters, and are caring for your mum with dementia - it is not surprising that you are struggling.

It’s important to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve - try not to bottle things up. A lot of people find that writing things down on this site is a good outlet for them. We have lots of users here who are dealing with grief, and you will see that you aren’t alone in how you are feeling.

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