Lost my husband 7 weeks ago suddenly and unexpectedly, he was 52 and we have 3 children. I’m struggling to get through every minute of every day. How do people cope with the overwhelming sadness and sense of loss
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Oh my goodness, we take very small steps and focus only on the moment we are in.
I lost my partner suddenly and unexpectedly in Jan at 49. It is so raw and all consuming at the beginning and juggling that with children must be incredibly hard.
My children are all grown but two lived at home with us and still live with me now and I find that a huge comfort.
I’m 22 wks in today and it’s not so raw now and I have good days now and I didn’t think that would be possible.
Keep using this sight, be honest with how your feeling. We are all here for the same reason and there’s always someone to listen and support you. We all know exactly how you feel.
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Good evening
I lost my partner 8wks ago like yourself very suddenly im not coping at all living everday is getting harder by the minute im trying my hardest but nothing seems to help
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I’m finding it the same it’s getting harder every day and I’m noticing how empty and quiet it is without him more and more
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Hiya
Same here aswell and the place feels empty with out her here x
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Im so sorry for your loss.
I lost my wife Donna 5 weeks ago tomorrow, the first 3 weeks are a blur, arranging things, contacting people, then the funeral, and now just emptiness. So many lovely people have hugged me and consoled me, but it makes no difference, the only person who could make it better is gone.
Im sure in time we learn to cope better, but it is a very slow process i think .
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Honestly ive no idea !! We just get through somehow but its so painful i know ! Im having a bad day today … i was walking my puppy yesterday and this dog was chasing her around and fell right into my ankle with all his weight on it ! Now my ankle has swollen and im laid up feeling sorry for myself without no husband here to comfort me 
its just awful … but keep sharing your story with us on here ! We all understand xx
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Hiya
My partner has now been gone just over 8wks ago now , life has put us all into disbelieve what to do next where to go i try to keep my self busy but theres only so much we can do ,i still cry everyday and talk about her to family and friends people grieve in there own way
But please do not hide yourself away it will be hard none of our partners that are sadly no longer with us would want to do that please show your feelings scream and shout what ever it takes try not to beat yourself up i done that for the first couple of weeks full of guilt that it was my fault what could i have done to save her etc just think what yoir partners would say to you right now
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Well its 6 months for me and tbh i go backwards and forwards ! Its not that straight forward ! I dont hide away - i go out but im still unhappy and i find the only safe place is my home tbh … i talk to my middle daughter about her dad but even then its painful … just talking about him makes me sad - but cheers dont worry about me ! I just dont trust humans anymore from what ive seen of human nature since my husband passed away …
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Only been 5 weeks for me, but quickly found out that a death in the family brings out the very best and very worst in people. Within 2 days someone asked for her lap top and sewing machine !
I only have the 2 dogs to talk to most of the time, they’re missing her terribly too, but we’ve got each other at least.
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Definitly brings that out in family for gods sake 2days though
I have 1 dog and she goes over and lays by jioannes ashes every now and then but as you say at least i have her
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Oh for goodness sakes ! Wow ! People. So far ive only seen the worst in people ! People you didn’t hardly know before are more help ! x
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Hiya
I havnt spoke to my son for over 3yrs now a good a friend of mine rang him to tell him about what had happened to joanne i was still in mexico i chose to stay there so she would not be on her own when she came home i bought her ashes home with me ,but since i have been home i have wats app him to try break the ice he has read them but havnt heard a word from him thats what hurts me most not having people to talk to especially him ,i do not like is wife and she knows that aswell so i think she has told him its me or her
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Yeh thats what they do isnt it ? My sons wife like that ! Shes been nothing but trouble since she married my son 10 years ago ! He was such a lovely son too and so devoted to me his mum ! Not anymore ! Not seen him since his dads funeral 5 months ago ! I know for a fact shes behind it ! She only cares about her family !! Sad innit ? Xx
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Definitely agree with u on that everything is about her family ive jyst found out that i have a second grandson born by sicial media when they bought their house i spent 8 wkends decorating it for them all i got was a card to say thank u , her father was only there a couple of weekends she told every one that her dad has worked his ass off to get it ready for them , as i said before joanne gas veen gone 8wks now even a littke txt from to say sorry dad for your loss or a card to say sorry but nothing it tears ne apart not speaking to we were really close until he met her then it all changed
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Yep amazing … and same here ! Never get any credit for anything we done for them … oh well we can only hope karma gets them hey ? So sorry your son didnt even text you ? Thats cruel … you just keep.looking after yourself and sod em xxxx
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Thats exactly what im doing ive put the olive branch out there will only do it once and as u said sod em
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I feel exactly the same.
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It’s so hard facing everyday
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Well here goes another day, fed the dogs, cried, looked at her picture, cried.
So hard to get motivated to do anything. If not for the dogs i think I’d just stay in bed.
5 weeks to the hour since she passed, even rang her phone yesterday just to hear her voice mail .
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