Hi lost my dad unexpectedly a week ago, and it hit my mum like a ton of bricks so bad that I am worried she is going to have a breakdown . As she is struggling it has been left to sort things although not much you can do until get death certificate. Dont get me wrong I am more than happy (if thats the right term) to do thia for my parents Im just struggling to deal with it all. I have a 18 year old who has been great but I also have guilt that I havent been there for him 100% because I am so focused on my mum. I have taken myself away at times and had a good sob but im just so worried about it all.
Is it normal to feel annoyed at the situation , people who are just acquaintances of Dad coming up to me saying how upset rhey are at dad’s passing. I feel like saying your upset no shit how do you think I feel?
Too many emotions to deal with feel like im constantly spinning.
I’m part of the Online Community team, and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources, which might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Bereavement Information pages which can help walk you through what you are feeling and experiencing.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support, and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.