Struggling with bereavement

Hey, this is all so new to me and I’m unsure if I’m even doing it right.

In 2022 I lost 6 people, I was at two of the deaths of the people that passed which is stuck in my head constantly. I thought I coped with grief quite well until my nephew died. My nephew committed suicide at 17 in November, his death brought back everything all the emotions and feelings of the past 5 that I lost throughout the year.

I struggling, I constantly feel sick, have a headache, short temper. I feel like I can’t cry but I have the constant feeling of wanting to.
I’m beginning to push people away as I feel like it’s not fair on them to cope with my grief, especially my partner whose grandad died also. I always feel like my grief is overshadowing his grief so I’m pushing him away to the point I might lose him.

Does anyone have any suggestions or advice on people I could reach out to for help or that would offer professional help.

Thank you x

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Hello @Nrobb99, I’m sorry to hear about all the losses you have endured in 2022. That is such a lot to cope with for anyone, and to be present at two of the losses and then lose a young nephew to suicide must be especially difficult. It is understandable that you are struggling in the face of such overwhelming grief. I hope you find the community to be a support - you are not alone.

Well done for recognising that you might need some further help to cope. Something you might wish to explore is bereavement counselling. It is a space just for you to talk about your grief. We offer free sessions at Sue Ryder. They are held online via video chat with specialist bereavement counsellors. Cruse also offer bereavement counselling, as well as live chat.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and discuss how you are struggling with them.

Being bereaved by suicide can bring with it a lot of complex feelings. Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide have a helpline on 0300 111 5065. They also run support groups across the UK. If you have a look at their website, you can see what support is available in your area.

If you ever need to talk to someone about how you’re feeling, these organisations are always just a call or text away:

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

If you find that things are becoming too much and you need urgent mental health support, you can find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline here.

I hope you will look into these options - you deserve help and support. Please do keep reaching out.

Take care,


Nrobb99 so sorry for all your losses. Can your doctor help . Ask him if you can have counselling. Reach out to your partner he must be feeling the same but worried about upsetting you.