I’ve been ok’ish ups and downs but just recently the image of her dying keeps replaying in my mind, I can visualise it all day everyday, I want it to stop, last week was a dark week… couldn’t cope with it playing like a constant video. I don’t know how to make it stop 
Hi @Miffy1,
That sounds incredibly difficult, and I can only imagine how exhausting it must be to have those images replaying in your mind. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle “bump” – hopefully, someone will have some thoughts to share who can relate to what you’re going through.
Take good care,
Ben
Hi. I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how hard those flashbacks can be and one thing that has worked for me is distractions to break the loop. For example, start naming one animal for each letter of the alphabet or focusing on things in your surroundings (notice three red things then three green things or three things you can hear then three things you can feel etc). For some other mindfulness strategies can help, there are lots if you google. Sending hugs. 
Thank you for the reply and advice, means so much x
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Hi @Miffy1 , hope you’re okay in the circumstances. My Mam died a couple of days ago and I was the one who found her. I’ll never forget that image as long as I live, but even in the short time since then, I’ve found looking at a favourite photo of her, finding some of her belongings with a familiar smell of her, or telling myself it was just her body, not ‘her’ has helped when it’s started to feel intrusive.
It’s a tough time, but you’ll get through it, we all will. This community we’ve found by accident is a big help, at least for me. Let’s keep supporting each other.
Thank you so much