Struggling with Grieve

Hi I lost my Mum in March this year,
Would love to talk to someone who knows what its like to lose a parent everyone tells me it will get easier and i will learn to cope but i miss her so much it still hasn’t sunl in that shes gone forever. I have my Dad still he is 80 year old but everyday i worry untill i hear from him in the mornings. My anxiety has gotten worse since she passed its taking over my life.


Hi there, so sorry about your Mum. I lost mine almost a year ago and still struggling. I can’t believe she’s gone.
I know people say it will get easier and we need to take our time to grieve but it still feels like a bad dream.
I have lost several close family members but nothing feels like this. It’s hell.
I’m sorry I can’t offer any solutions for you but hope it helps to know others understand and are there for you. Take care.

Hi, sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad 17 years ago but still had my Mum. Although I was grieving I felt I had to stay strong for my Mum and that gave me a focus. People used to say to me time heals, but i think in time you learn to deal with it. There is no time limit on grief just take each day as it comes.

Sadly I lost my Mum in May having been diagnosed with cancer and told there is nothing they could do it was about managing the pain. We had 6 weeks with Mum, she is the first person I think of in the morning and last person at night. Take each day as it comes, some days I go hour by hour as the grief can just overcome me. I have found walking helps and setting myself small tasks throughout the day.

There are occasions where I have been feeling anxious, more so now as I am planning to go back to work next week and I haven’t been at work since the end of March.

This is a great forum to find people who are going through the same thing. Take care.

1 Like

My Dad passed away in January and I still cant beleive hes gone. I often feel like hes just sat at home with my mum. I feel as time goes on people dont mention my dads death anymore as though they think I should have moved on by now but I havent. I have found journaling to be helpful as I write to my dad each evening about how my day has been and also the texts from Sue Ryder have helped and reassured me in how I am feeling.

Take care

Vicky x

Hi Paulah76
I lost my mum last Dec and it still feels like yesterday The rawness of the grief has eased but I can honestly say the crying on a daily basis hasn’t. At this point I am not sure it will get easier. I think of my mum every moment of every day and so many things trigger me to cry for the slightest thing.
Anxiety I think is normal and I have been the same. Nothing prepares you for losing anyone and it’s cruel, hell, and so emotionally gut churning.
We are all going through it although we are at different stages of grief and we all deal with it differently. That’s all you can do is survive every day until you personally get a bit stronger and go from there. Reach out to people on here bec this site has been a godsend for me
Thinking of you
Deborah x