Good evening all.
I lost both my Nan and Uncle this year, on new years day my Uncle lost his battle to cancer. In March my Nan was taken into hospital after yet another battle with pneumonia, unfortunately she was never to return home.
Fortunately both were surrounded by family in their final days but I just don’t know what we do now.
I feel as though the world is moving on around me and I’m stuck in this sadness and loss.
The 5 days in which Nan was hospitalised were so surreal, I’ve never been so close to death and I just don’t know what to do now.
There’s just an emptiness. As time goes on it only seems to get worse.
Good evening all.
I’m so sorry to hear that you lost both your nan and your uncle - that is a lot of grief to deal with in a short space of time. Grief is a long process, and there isn’t a set timeline.
However, one thing that can make it last longer is not having anyone to talk to about how you are feeling. Do you have supportive friends or family members that you can talk to? Writing things down on this site can be another good outlet for your feelings. There are other people here in similar situations, and it can help to know that you are not alone.
For example, here are a couple of recent posts from people who’ve lost a grandparent - you might find it helpful to have a read and see what their experiences were, and maybe post a reply:
Suzie79 lost her nan in June: https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/what-do-i-do-next
Shelly28 lost her grandad: https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/my-grandad-my-life-how-do-i-go
If there’s anything I can help with, or you have any questions about the Online Community, just let me know.
Thank you for your reply. I sometimes speak to close friends but not often as I feel I’m just repeating the same things over and over. Because the way I feel hasn’t changed.
However. I have self referred for bereavement therapy and also taken some time off of work. I just have this emptiness I cannot fill but I am trying to find ways to cope as I have a young child to take care of.
I’m really glad that you’ve referred yourself for therapy and taken some time off work - you are doing the right thing in taking care of yourself. Now is a time to be really kind to yourself, and give yourself a chance to grieve.
I lost my nan few weeks ago her funeral tmrro she spent her final days in hostipal:( she was like a mum to me
Oh I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can completely understand. I lost my nan 8 weeks ago and I’m feeling like you. I’m still trying to deal with it. I also have a young child to look after too so I know where you are coming from.
I too also feel the same in respects as feeling like you are just repeating yourself to others when you need to talk
You are not alone in any of this. And I’m happy to listen if ever needed