Struggling without my Mum


I lost my mum very suddenly only a few weeks ago and I’m really struggling without her. She was my mum and my best friend and I feel so lost without her.
I’m struggling to accept the fact she has gone - I know it’s very raw still and hasn’t been very long. The thought of not being able to speak to her or spend time with her is really breaking my heart - we used to do so much together and spoke a couple of times a day on the phone.

Finding it really hard without her and just miss her so much x


Hello @Lisamarie ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Lisamarie you’re not alone. My beautiful Mum died 7 weeks ago after a problem with her heart valve operation. I wasn’t expecting it at all and am completely lost and afraid. There’s a massive void in my life which I can’t fill.

I’ve always lived with her and saw her almost everyday of my life. How can she just be gone like that? Missing her so much now, this is the longest time I’ve ever been apart from her. It hurts more than anything I’ve ever experienced. Sending hugs :heart:


Oh dear and I am sorry for you but it’s the very early stages of your grief so it’s very very recent and raw for you. I can really empathise as my mother died six months ago and life just isn’t the same but we’re getting through…

To be honest, it isn’t going to go away but life will become more manageable but this will be a slow process and although personally speaking I am ‘better’, it’s a lingering sadness of the permanence of the situation that still pervades. I don’t know if you feel this but one can have a wish of just wanting to hide away and be with only the very few who do get it.

I think losing a mother is the worst thing to be honest - certainly it has been for me. Never before have I felt so nostalgic and sentimental.

One final thought, don’t be surprised if some disappoint you. My take on that is that is they just don’t know how to understand and of course maybe they don’t share that same special relationship and bond you have had.

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It’s wonderful to read about how close you were! It’s so good you lived with her and what love you shared!

I spend a lot of time with my father as my own mother sadly passed away six months ago. I loved her dearly and she was the parent I was closest to and now because of her absence I am with my Dad and its good but not the same as Mummy but I have to make the best of it!

Keep remembering and talk to her. I am thinking of you…

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I’m so sorry to hear this - it’s just so difficult isn’t it. I feel exactly the same, it was completely unexpected and we still don’t know the reasons why and it could take up to 6 months to find out.

I feel a massive void too - my amazing mum was such a huge part of my life and life will just never be the same without her. She was the most supportive person in every way and was my go to for everything, even down to a general chat on the phone - it was always mum, she was my best friend.

I am struggling to comprehend how she can just be gone like that also - it really is so painful. Thank you - sending hugs xx

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Hi @Lisamarie

Unfortunately I don’t have any words of wisdom to offer but wanted to let you know you aren’t alone - my mum died suddenly yesterday and just as you describe, I am completely lost and heartbroken. She was my whole world too and I don’t know how I will live without her. Sending love to you and I’m sorry you are in this horrible place too x

I am so sorry to hear that - it’s so hard to comprehend and try to believe it’s real isn’t it, just such a shock…it still seems so surreal. I am sorry to hear you are in this situation too - it really is just heartbreaking.

I hope you are doing as ok as you can be - especially as it only happened yesterday, must be extremely difficult for you.


I know exactly how your feeling , my mom passed 6 months ago for some reason it’s hurting more now , I think I’ve been in denial , now realise she really has gone & never coming back , don’t know how to accept it .
I think I’m ok & coping then a wave comes over me and I start crying . You find the strength the first few months as there are so many things to sort out then everyone goes back to normality and your left with a big hole in your heart :cry:

Sorry to hear you are in this position too - it’s just so heartbreaking isn’t it.

It still seems so surreal, just can’t comprehend that I will never speak to or see her again. She was my mum and my best friend and I miss her terribly in every way.

Such a big hole that can never be filled x

Hello, your post is almost a carbon copy of mine. I lost my lovely Mum on the 20/10/22. She was my best friend too. It’s her funeral on the 22/11 and I’m dreading it. I miss her so much.

Very sorry to hear of your loss - such a heartbreaking situation.

My mum’s funeral was a few weeks ago - on the morning of it, I honestly didn’t think I was going to be able to go but a feeling of strength came over me whilst there and I somehow got through it. Sending strength to you, it really isn’t easy.

Just miss everything about mum - trying to focus on all the lovely memories we have but it just doesn’t seem to be getting any easier :frowning: I know it’s very early days still but finding it so hard x

I lost my mum on 13th October, the first 2 weeks were awful, just a blur. I still cry every day but it’s getting better, I try to think about how she would tell me not to cry and be upset.

Big hugs to all of you in the same situation

Hi Lisa my mum died Tuesday just gone… Like you I loved my mum more than anyone else in the world… I love and miss her so much

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I lost my mum on the 4th October - I don’t feel it’s getting any easier but I know it’s very early days. Sending hugs

Hi Claire

Sorry to hear of your loss.

It’s so heartbreaking isn’t it - still feels so surreal, I lost my mum on 4th October, completely unexpected. I love and miss her too so much - feel extremely lost without her.

Sending hugs