Today marks 2 months since my husband died. Im struggling so much and today has been absolutely awful. I cant still hardly believe it
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@MrsSutty I am sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you are feeling. I lost my husband 4 months ago today and I have been struggling as well. In tears for most of today and still can’t accept that I have lost him. I wish I could tell you it gets better. I have cried every day since I lost him. The pain is unbearable. All I can say is take one hour, one day at at a time. This is what I do. Losing your partner is the most horrendous thing that can happen to us. Keep posting on here as often as you need. Everyone understands what you are going through because we are all on the same awful journey at varying stages. Sending you love and hugs. xx
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I know exactly how you feel I lost my partner 5 weeks ago and some days I can’t even drag myself out of bed. I know I have to go back to work at the beginning of February but I’m dreading seeing everyone again and carrying on without him. I looked after my partner since September when he gradually became bedbound. Even though I knew he only had couple months to live I still can’t accept it, how your life can change in a few months
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Im sorry for your loss too, it’s the most cruel thing to happen. Each day is unbearable and today has been even worse. Im struggling so much. I look at this site and wonder how can it be that so many of us are going through this. It’s unbelievable . Look after yourself.
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im sorry for your loss too Debbie1996 we had bee married 33 years and together 37 years. Like yourself, some days i cant get up but im trying to force myself, not succeeding every time though. I find it so hard. Miss him so much, cry so much. Just do what you feel is right for you each day. Some days i do nothing. There is no right or wrong. I know going back to work will be hard for us both, people asking how we are. Be honest with them. Take care and look after yourself
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@MrsSutty Thank you. Yes, I agree it’s the most cruel thing to happen. After 40 years of marriage (46 1/2 years together) I find it very hard to accept that I have lost my soulmate, the love of my life, my best friend, my better half. I am so sad to see so many of us going through this pain. Be to yourself, give yourself time to grieve and take care of yourself. Sending you love and hugs. xx
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It’s terrible that so many of us are suffering. I wanted to go first I said cos I couldn’t manage without him . I didn’t expect this to happen at 58 . It’s so wrong
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It’s been nine weeks since my partner passed away and after 30 years together this is the first time I’ve been on my own I haven’t got any friends or family to help me with the grief and loneliness and anxiety I struggle every day and I’ve only just started to manage to have something to eat after loosing three stone in weight I have a fur baby and she gets me up in the morning to feed her but I just go back to bed and lay there not wanting to do anything or go anywhere I’m struggling to accept that Ann is not here anymore I’m being monitored by the mental health team because of my wish to join my partner and after spending time in hospital over Xmas because I tried to join Ann I just don’t know how much longer I can carry on without her
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@Jol I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about going first but then I think I don’t want my Tony to go through this pain but it is very hard. Take care and be kind to yourself. Sending you love and hugs. xx
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Hi everyone
I’m with you star gate this is just hell and I wouldn’t want Paul to go through it
He passed away 24/7/2022 10 days before our 44 th wedding anniversary known him 48
We had his funeral on our wedding anniversary just seemed ‘right’
We came together on 5th August 1978
44 years later
Just 43 wedding anniversary’s
43 birthdays
I’m in my 2second year and struggling sorry I have no words of encouragement
It’s bloody hard
Lonely
Alone
Lost
Bereft
My heart is broken and i cry and have done every single day since he passed
lol to you all
Xx
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@Bess1 I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you. Everything you’ve said I can relate to. It’s very hard when you have done everything together. Weekends are very long and lonely. Not sure when things will become tolerable for us. It is hell and one big struggle daily.
Sending you love and hugs and everyone living in this nightmare. xx
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Morning Stargate
Yes folks here are in ‘our’ boat
At least reading these messages prove we aren’t entirely loosing the plot altho at times I think I am
Yes weekends…. we used our motorhome more in the winter ( Paul farmer summer!)
I so so miss her
We loved her went to Keswick a lot walking
Costa ( coffee stops ) I loved those weekends
Now they are just another day to get through
I so so miss him like every single one of us on here
Take care
Xx
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My husband passed away 3 weeks after being unwell for over a year with pancreatic cancer
Even though we knew he wasn’t going to get better the hurt I feel is just so horrendous and I don’t want to face the world or get out of bed. He was my best friend, my soul mate and we had been together for 42 years. I just don’t want to be here and want to fall asleep
and never wake up
X
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Hi Jan 2012
I am so so for your loss the pain is just excruciating
I feel exactly the same as you
Xx
PS cancer sucks!
Xx
@Boo2 im so sorry for your loss, it is so difficult. Im trying to get up in a morning but then i just sit doing nothing and feeling lost. I really hope you can find the strengh to carry on but please keep posting on this site. Although it doesnt feel like it you are not alone. Look after yourself and your little fir baby.
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I’m feeling the same 10 weeks since I lost the love of my life. Can’t stop crying.
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Daisy555
You are not alone I’m the same as you since my partner passed away I keep breaking down and crying just keep posting on here and let people know how much you are struggling
Take care and look after yourself
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#Daisy555 It’s 10 week today for me. 70 long day and nights. I’ve had a terrible week. I miss him so much. It’s an awful struggle for all of us. Look after yourself and keep posting on here.
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I’m finding the pain unbearable today.Just 10 weeks.
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I feel the same.