Hello just need some advice my dad passed away 19 years ago and my mum 10 years ago I miss them so much it hurts my heart all I wanna do is sleep my life away when I was growing up my mum always seemed sad because her mum passed away when she was 14 and I never understood what she was going through but it like a kick in the teeth to me I used to love going out even for a wee walk but that does not happen anymore I’m stuck in my house 24/7 feels like I’m just waiting on my days weeks months coming to and end I don’t want this life anymore I want to get out and meet new people I’m only 41 I should not feel like this please help with some advice thank you for taking the time to read this
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Hi @Shar831,
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Alex
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Hi,
Have you had counselling or gone to groups for bereavement? I’m new to this horrible grief club. My husband passed away 22 days ago. I’m going to get help to deal with my emotions. We have 2 adult children and I need to be strong for them too.
Take care,
Julie x
Im so sorry @Shar831 for your losses - you lost both your parents quite young in life - I lost my Dad aged 27 so i can understand a little of the impact it has. 
The fact that you’re now looking around and saying you want to get out is a positive step, but i can understand after spending so long shutting yourself away, it can feel daunting to step outside of your comfort zone 
Do you have any family or friends that could support you? I would suggest taking really small steps - maybe just going out for a coffee is enough, or a short walk round the block. Maybe later on there might be an evening class or an exercise group or a volunteering opportunity, but thats further down the line.
Id also echo @MrsC1 and suggest maybe counselling or bereavement support groups might give you the support you need. Its difficult to change longstanding behaviours on our own - we fall into set ways of thinking, and its hard to break that, but a counsellor can help recognise those patterns. And support groups are great for realising youre not alone in your grief, and can then develop into new friendships.
It might feel daunting but remember you dont need to do everything all at once. Even the highest mountains are climbed one step at a time. Sending hugs and strength 