Hello
I lost my husband suddenly 7 months ago whilst on holiday in spain. I did cpr on him but he didn’t make it. I still feel lost and feel I dont belong anywhere. Does anyone else feel the same . He was only 66
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Hi
I am so sorry for your loss I know its hard and yes i do feel.i dont belong here anymore as I feel no one needs me now what I am supposed to do i do not know people say get on with your life what life 
the life I had is gone and I do not know how to cope with this life
Sweetheart
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Sorry for your loss, my partner was 66 too. He died suddenly 7 months ago. I’m still just taking it one day at a time as there is no future, I can’t even begin to think about that. I hate not being part of a couple and living alone now. My neighbours don’t even ask how I am. I think I 'm invisible.
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Hi norma1
You are not on your own my nieghbours never bother with me at all I feel more than invisible the other year i was not feeling very good mentally and I stayed in bed for a week and never opened my blinds or curtains and nobody bothered to see of i was still alive it made me realise I am on my own with all off it one of my nieghbours is a pastor a lady at that and she has never asked me anything since the day paul passed away I thought they where the caring ones well not round me my next door nieghbour whom makes me feel cringy tells me at Xmas he was invited over to my other nieghbours as he was on his own well so was I on my own on xmas day and that just made me feel even more lonier than ever they know I dont go out as they can see my car so I think to myself where is the point nieghbours are nothing like they used to be at all .
Sweetlady
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Hi
I’m sorry to hear you’ve lost your husband too. Mine died suddenly last summer, he was 68. I think we are all pretty much in the same boat. We have spent our lives as a couple and now have no idea how to carry on alone.
But we do it, one day at a time. I find looking too far ahead impossible. Have you been to any bereavement groups? I go to one occasionally and the people there are lovely. There is also a counsellor you can speak to privately if you want to.
Keep posting here, it’s a wonderful friendly group. There will always be someone along with advice or just a friendly ear.
Take care, Helen x
Norma that’s one of the hard things I think after the terrible loss and grief to contend with we just seem to fade away and become invisible to people. It makes loneliness much harder to deal with. I feel actively being avoided by people. Dont know if it’s because they are uncomfortable and dont know what to say or frightened it will rub off on them ,either way it hurts. Im sorry you feel the same .
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