Sudden loss of husband

Losing a partner
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I have recently lost my husband of 49yrs , after complications following a major heart surgery which he had on the 5th of april he managed to stay with me for 54 days but passed very suddenly on 30th of may he was 72 we have never been apart for long in all those yrs and i am lost

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@Joy72 so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away 9 weeks ago today after a battle with cancer. He was 67. I have found this site a comfort and a help. Hearing other people going through a lot of the same feelings makes you feel less alone. Take care

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Thankyou and I’m so sorry for your loss yes it is so raw only 6 days ago but hearing and talking to you all i hope will bring comfort for us all ,so many sad things happen in life but the loss of someone you have spent the biggest part of your life with i haven’t known such a pain again thankyou for replying it is a comfort to me

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I lost my soulmate suddenly after a 2 month illness with a brain tumour on 22 Jan after 48 years of marriage and together 50 years…she was 66. I can so relate to how you are feeling. I have found great solace in this forum. The pain is here forever, but there are so many friends on here to help offer support. Please use it. Sending big love :heavy_heart_exclamation:

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Thankyou i am so very sorry for your loss to lose a soul mate is the most heart breaking pain,my husband was my everything and the sudden knowing that he is no longer with me has broken me as it is still only 6 days ago i hope together we can heal each other i am grateful all the messages of support and will continue to reach out to you all also sending love to all who are struggling at this sad time thankyou again hugs and prayers to you :pray:

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I am so sorry about your loss. My husband died suddenly in February and the feeling of being completely lost without him is overwhelming. He was 65 and I am 62. Nobody is prepared to lose the loved one suddenly or after a long illness. There is always hope that he or she will pull through and make it and we all would live happily after. The truth is horrible and the pain is almost not bearable. Do you have any family or friends who can support you? Sending you lots of love and hugs.

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Hi i am so sorry for your loss,i lost my 61yr old husband 2 weeks ago ,he was supposed to pick me up from the airport and ehen he didn’t artive o phoned my sisyeg to go check on him believing him to be asleep,unfortunately she found he had died on my kitchen floor from a pulmonary embolism and had been there for 6-12 hour’s,the pain is totally unbearable i feel as though someone has ripped my heart out,he wad not only my soulmate but my best friend,i cant stop crying and feeling so alone i have a great family and brilliant friends but i still feel so alone without him, we had so many plans i am angry he has left me,i miss him so much

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…sending love your way… You are amongst friends here. :heavy_heart_exclamation:

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Hello Dyane, I am so sorry about the sudden loss of your husband but please, do not be angry with him. He - I am sure - would like to be with you for many years to come but was taken by an illness. My husband also died suddenly of undiagnosed kidney cancer this February within a few hours after he collapsed at home. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

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@Dyane I’m so sorry for your loss. It is still very early days for you and you must still be in shock. Try to take each hour, day at a time. Anger seems to be quite a common symptom in grief but I’m sure it’s not really directed at your husband but at the world in general. Life is so cruel & unfair sometimes. This forum provides a great platform to share your feelings and seek advice. I hope you can get some comfort from it. Sending hugs

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hi all my thoughts are with you. i lost my husband of 24 years on 5th April
We new it was coming and i thought i was prepared but i so was not, i feel so empty and can not get used to it just being me .iv have joined this group after hearing about it on tv as i just don’t know where to turn or do.

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Dear Mando, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband suddenly in February this year. We are all here to support each other. Have you applied for the bereavement support payment? It helps with the funeral costs and replaced the widow’s pension. I know you think how can she talk about financial things but trust me you will need all help you can get. I do not know if your husband died at home or in the hospital and if there will be a coroner’s inquest but it is important that you start with funeral preparation although you might not even have his death certificate. Maybe friends, family or even neighbours can help you with this. Do you have any support? Might be also a good idea to speak with your GP to get counseling to help you. I am still in such shock that I am mostly crying and shaking all over the place. I still cannot believe that I will never see my beloved husband again. I have his urn in our bedroom upstairs and talk to and kiss him every time when I pass our bedroom. Sending lots of love and hugs.

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Dear mando the immense sense of grief and loneliness is so overwhelming it comes over in waves i too recently lost my much loved husband of 49yrs though we had known each other for 50yrs so i totally know the utter sense of loss and the emptiness of them not being a part of our lives,it almost doesn’t seem real to me at times .like this isn’t happening then the realisation you are alone hits like a thunderbolt to the heart and you relive the scenario’s over and over and the exhausting greif is with you again . I’m sorry for the monologue i know you are wanting answers and support i am the same. But know that you are definitely not alone in how you are feeling i hope this gives you a little comfort there are a lot of kind understanding and wise people on this forum who have been where you are and i know they will come to support you as they did me please keep posting let out all your emotions it does help sending you a big hug :people_hugging:xx

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Thank you so much for replying.

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thank you for your reply. yes I’ve dealt with everything that needed to be dealt with i received his ash’s back on Friday ive got him in a necklace and an earn im going to put the rest of him under his favourite tree surrounded by his favourite flowers. . it’s now it has it me he has really gone.

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That is a lovely way to have your beloved husband with you at all times the necklace and the tree beautiful and he is always with you :revolving_hearts: xx

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I’m doing the same…apart from the necklace. We have three mini urns…one each for me and our son and daughter. Some ashes will go under a new tree we are planting in our favourite local private green…the rest I’m keeping in a decorative container until I go and our kids can join us together as our us somewhere :heartpulse:

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That is a lovely idea. My husband wanted to go into my Mum’s grave (she had a traditional earth burial) but I wanted to have him with me for a while. I want to go with him into my Mum’s grave as well but I am not sure if it is possible because it is a single grave. I have to find out when everything else is cleared and I can set up my will. Because I am on my own I have to plan everything in advance. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

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Hi Mando i know exactly what your saying ,i lost my husband 10 weeks after a traumatic death,i am at a total loss without him,he was my life as well as my world,i still cry on a daily basis and am still in disbelief that he wont be home,i have a very supportive family and friends but still feel alone.I feel i have lost his family when he died as i havent seen or heard from them only his sister ,i am totally heartbroken :broken_heart:

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