Pudding
Do you have anyone you could FaceTime?
I know we can’t divulge our details here but FaceTiming would be great.
A lot of my family are overseas and others and friends spread throughout the UK and we use FaceTime a lot.
xx
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Not really. I haven’t been out of the house except with Norman for a couple of years. Our friends are really his friends and that is the way it has been for most of our married life. I don’t really make friends easily as I am essentially shy despite my job was meeting a lot of people but that was in a professional capacity. It’s different when talking and meeting people for business rather than social.
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That is a shame, do you like dogs, if so, perhaps taking a small dog for a walk for someone might be good to get you out to meet people. I’ve been thinking of starting a web site where lone wives in my area could meet up for a brew in a local cafe just for a chat really but haven’t had the time yet. I wonder if this site will allow us to do that. I live near Blackpool but not sure how much info we can divulge on here. If any body has facebook and may be interested in lone wives let me know.
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I have mobility issues which is why I didn’t go out. I get around the house with a stick and have a fall alarm but am nervous of being out alone in case I fall and can’t walk far. Getting in and out of cars is difficult. SUV’s are impossible for me. Too high. Your idea of a group i am sure would be appreciated. There seem to be quite a few people in the north. I am in rural Somerset.
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I suppose it depends how many people use facebook. I’m 62 but quite tech savvy as I used to be an IT Project Manager. I might try it on here to see if they will allow it. Depends on what other people say.
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I am 71 and used to support SAP for finance and costing. In IT you will know what I am talking about.
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@lonewife
I think FaceTime would be useful for a lot of people which is why I mentioned it to Pudding, for family and friends, I use it a lot.
We aren’t allowed on here to give our private addresses because of data protection.
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Interesting. I am aware of the package but never got involved in any projects for finance. Our projects were split because of our experience, mine was mainly social care.
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In the past I was involved in the early days of point of sale. Designed and wrote systems for Laura Ashley, toys r us and curry’s. Also designed and wrote a system for making and storing paint, cutting board to size, and producing cigarettes. Not dealt with social care.
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I would prefer to meet people in a local area but definitely wouldn’t give any addresses out. I will give it a go on a conversation starter on here first and see how it goes. I have a few friends I meet for lunch or just pop round to their houses for a brew. It does help talking about things like this and two of my friends have lost their husbands in the last year so they know what its like
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I worked for the council but IT was taking over by BT so all the PMs were just assigned projects to deal with. Many were pot luck but any client based ones were usually given to people who used to work in that area.
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It must help to have friends who know what you are going through. My neighbour lost her husband just as we moved in 7years ago. She is a great support. Not going down her route where she originally started drinking at 9 a.m. she doesn’t recommend it.
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I have a drink most nights. I keep saying I should have a few brandy free nights but never seem to manage it. I don’t drink before about 9pm and usually go to bed around mid night.
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I always used to have 1 glass of wine a night. I have hardly drunk since he died. He didn’t drink. It reacted with his meds. The very meds that ultimately killed him. They couldn’t stop the bleeding due to the warfarin. Some of the issue was that for some reason most of the bottles had corks and I wasn’t strong enough to open them. Now have an electric corkscrew but just don’t fancy it most nights. Drinking to oblivion does hold some attraction. Certainly today when I am really missing him. If it helps I don’t see any harm. Anything that give relief and could help us sleep. Xx
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Are you going to the meeting in St Anne’s on Saturday, do any men attend these meet ups ?
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Have you joined the facebook group
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Hello Lonewife.
People are very selfish, a day may come when they too, in turn find them selves to be alone in the world and around 30 percent of house holds are just 1 person and most of us as we get older will find ourselves alone, I am 63 and live alone in a house as do a lot of people do on this estate, I never married and everyone else has died(my mother died in my arms early in January and that would not get passed the sensors in the movies, she drowned in her own fluids) life can be gastly and none off us asked for it and while on one hand it would be easy to throw in the towel and end it, that would be a cop out and betrail to those who have gone before us and finding a way to make a success of our new lives is the best way to honour are loved ones and especially if they have made sacrifices for us, so do things you have not done before like model engineering, body building or paragliding or something(I have taken up balls for know and considering paragliding) do not feel guilty about having a good time as well, it is a time for courage and a time for faith, you never get over a real bereathment, but you do get used to it.hang in there.
Tim
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