Suddenly lost my older brother

I find myself here as i lost my brother suudenly unexpectedly sometimes i feel like I’m still in shock he was my best friend and were very close growing up. Trying to get counselling but there is a 9 to 12month waiting list so googling yo find my own help and way through it xx


Hello @Starlight12,

Thank you for reaching out to the community - I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother.

If you are exploring counselling, we offer free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat.

You might also want to look into our other Online Bereavement Support options, too:

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
  • Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS

Take good care and keep reaching out,


This is my first post but I also lost my beloved older brother, suddenly in March this year. I have 2 other brothers but was closest to him, as we had 3 years between us. I feel absolutely lost and bereft. I’m so sorry for what your going through. Grief is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with but grateful to have found this community to help me process my thoughts. I don’t always want to talk about my feelings with family or friends and find this a safe place for me to learn from others. It gets harder not easier with time at the moment. Crying my eyes out today, I felt great yesterday? No rhyme or reason with grief. Be gentle with yourself. The relationship we have with siblings is unique. I hope you get some counselling :heart: and find some kind of peace x


I am sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your brother too…we have shock to deal with as well as grief…i can relate to the up n down…some days i feel "normal " other days just desperate for things to be different.
So glad you have reached out on hear i have only recently started posting but there are a lot of posts that strike a chord even if it’s in different circumstances.
Hope your evening has improved lookafter your self all we can do is go with each day xx