Lost my father two years ago in January and my mum this January. Both died at home and I cared for them along with Elmar Care who were brilliant.
I was there when my dad died I held his hand.
My mum died during the night with a carer present. I wish I had been there
It’s so hard to move on. I feel a deep sadness a part of me is missing. I feel a loss of role.
Thanks for listening.
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Dear Needtotalk, I am so sorry for your loss, you have had a very tough year. I’m so glad you posted, there are lots of people on here who can empathise with you. Have you sought professional help? I did after losing my mum last April, as I was at a total loss and did not feel I could cope.
I wish I had found this forum a lot earlier, as it has been a massive help. Just being able to write down how I was feeling, and the fact I was struggling to cope, has helped as there are so many people on here who have been in similar situations.
Alice
Thank you for your reply it’s kind of you to take the time.
I wondered about attending a face to face bereavement group and am going to research this.
I hope you are ok too. I never imagined just how severe the impact is.
Mum was cremated and I’m still waiting for the plaque to be placed where she is.
I often still think oh I will go see mum or talk to her.
I have old voicemails I listen to
Thank you once again. Appreciate it.
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Good morning
How are you today? I hope you are ok,
I totally understand, I kept on thinking I had seen her in the street, and going to call her. I now have a photo of her in my front room, and talk to her everyday, which is comforting.
I’ve not been in a group as it isn’t really my kind of thing, but I did find health in mind really useful. I self-referred and had counselling for around 5 months, I would definitely recommend it. Also, if your mum was attached to a hospice, a lot of them offer free counselling as well as the ability to join support groups.
Alice
Thank you for your support and kindness. Appreciate it. I will look into that.
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