My heart goes out to you I have been without my darling wife since October last year and it does not get any easier
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I know what you mean, although Jane didnāt play, we were a duo tooā¦she came to the vast majority of my gigs over forty plus years, I am in a new band now, but its not like it was. I only keep doing it to fill my timeā¦e venings are still awful on my own.
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Since my husband died fifteen months ago I have joined three choirs. Trying to keep busy but still feel extremely lonely particularly at weekends. I know what you mean by it isnāt the same.
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This is brilliantly written it says everything.x
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My husband always said hugs are free and one size fits all .itās been 3 and a half years and I still miss his hugs desperately.
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Hi all, am so sorry that we are all on this exhausting, lonely, heartbreaking journey, missing our loved ones so much. I am crying reading all your messages as I can relate so much. My husband passed very recently away after an 18 month battle with terminal cancer. He was only 40 when he was diagnosed. I am a few years older than him and the thought of facing my future without him is so overwhelming. I never knew so many tears existed! I too miss his big bear hugs, the mindless chatter about everyday life, having him in the house when I come home etc. The loneliness and sadness is crippling at times. Sending you all much love and a virtual hug x
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I too feel the same it is heartbreaking the loss we are all dealing with this site helps to speak with others that know what it is like
Sending you all hug take care xx
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I felt okay like I had turned a small corner but here I am after 12 months crying and feeling anxious. The hurt feels bad x
I know how you feel Nel some days I think Iām not human as I tick along doing what family expect I manage but when Iām home that is a different story feel so alone as Iām sure most on here do itās horrible 11 months seems like yesterday all like a bed dream thinking of you if any one has answer so the pain is less and the tears stop and you learnt to feel almost normal please share it
Easter weekend and people enjoying normal things together couples planning what to do itās so hard
Take care xx
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i too have played in bands since i was 17 i am now 73 an play in 2 bands. Rebecca used to to come to a few of my gigs when it suited her . I thought i was finished playing a few times then something cropped up for me to start playing again. after a gig or even practice there is no one come home too .
i feel lucky to have my own health an also an interest in music ,just miss Rebecca to share things with we were married for 50 years in May an together for 3 years before that. i am sure i say her name a hundred times a day ,just chat away to her in the house. As Sandy Shaw sang ; Allways Something There to Remind me;
Rebecca passed away just before Christmas 22/12/21 her service was on Christmas Eve.
i am just glad that Rebecca dos not have to go through what we are all going through as she became totally dependant on me the last 6 months of her life i seen to everything that had to be done.
i always say to her; good morning another day without you, another day closer to i am with you again.
God bless you all.
Bert
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i am glad that i was allowed to be with my wife Rebecca an hold her hand as she passed away my daughter was also with her an stroked her brow. The last words Rebecca spoke to us were ;you are all very good to me; we said you are always good to us an we all love you. Rebecca then went to sleep an passed away peacefully.
i feel it is a small comfort for her to know that her family all loved her.
Rebecca had not been well for the last 3 years ,the last 3 months of her life she was in an out of hospital an not much better than when she was admitted.
It is now going into week 17 since Rebecca passed away.
God Bless You All.
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This is all so true. The only benefit I have seen in my grief is that I have (and am not afraid to) cut people out who caused me nothing but pain. I realised there is so much in life that will hurt and you canāt control it, whereas some things you can control - like shit friends.
I feel a weight taken off now that I no longer have to worry about them being hurtful or uncaring. And theyāve unexpectedly been replaced with new friends who have been so kind and supporting.