- It doesn’t follow a neat timeline. You will feel sadness, anger, denial, numbness, even acceptance many times as you carve your own unique pathway through grief.
- It’s incredibly lonely even when you are surrounded by people. You can feel like no one understands the depth of your pain, which is deeply lonely and isolating.
- Grief changes your identity. You lose the person you were before your grief, and it reshapes how you see the world.
- Grief is not just emotional. You feel it in your body, the obvious heartache, but also digestion problems, sleeplessness, poor immunity and low energy levels. You’ll need to tend to the grief in your body too.
- Joy and grief can co-exist. You may feel like all the joy is gone and you’ll never feel happiness again, but you will. It will be different, perhaps tinged with some sadness, but you will love, smile and laugh again. Keep going.
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Neve, having lost my only child.
Ps, I like your previous quotes to how a person feels which no one, I mean no one can nor understand!
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This is so very true
Hugs to all the grieving parents
These are all so true. The one statement that jumped out at me was that you change as a person. Before my husband died in February I was independent, strong, fun loving. My axis has shifted - I now feel dependant on my family for emotional support and the person I was is no more.
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Oh yes - I wondered why life was so strange
I was the helper the doer - now I feel like a nobody sometimes
In someone else’s skin
I feel humbled as well as I must admit I had no idea
I am lucky I have a family who have time for me
I’m taking up their offers because I think it’s unsafe to feel so low at times
After another load of tears I found two rose bushes with names that remind me of us 
By planting them side by I feel there is a reminder of us again in the garden
It’s little thing sometimes that lift the spirits
Hugs to get you through the weekend