Hi all, I’ve just joined today so thought I’d make a post as my head is absolutely swimming. I’m not entirely sure where I’m going with this, but feel the need to express my feelings in words to a community of people who sadly understand the pain. I lost my amazing Dad in July of this year, and have never felt so lost in my entire life. He was taken far too young, so suddenly, so unexpectedly. I feel so detached from life, almost as if I’m floating on the outside looking in, as if I will never feel joy again. I also have this impending sense of doom with Christmas around the corner, our first one without him…
Hello @NatalieB ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling in so much pain and that your thoughts are not really making sense to you as you try to navigate the pain you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to have a read of this Sue Ryder article, take a look when you feel ready. Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Hi @NatalieB this is a great sounding board for feelings thoughts that seem jumbled disorganised and “floating”. I did the same thing, I lost my dad 8weeks ago and needed to empty my head space on here… The feeling you mention of “being detached” from life feels so accurate… Like I’m on a conveyor belt going forward and all I want to do is stop and get off. We had my dad’s funeral 11th Sept and his birthday was 13th-so soon so raw… In this short space of 8weeks, we’ve had my dad’s birthday, my wedding anniversary and my sons birthday this week… These dates are so difficult, adapting to the new life without that unconditional love of the one man that’s been in my whole life, is so so hard. Like you said all the “special dates” like Christmas are scary and not slowing down. I wish you some comfort from sharing with this community and virtual hugs from people in very similar positions xx
I totally understand how you feel. Things are never going to be the same again. Ever.