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Struggling after 29 months. 3 children adjusting to life without Dad. Was my partner for 28 years. When will I stop feeling so lonely?

Hello Wendy,

I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve lost your partner and dad to your children and that you are feeling so lonely. There is no set timeline on grief, and it is not uncommon to still find things hard after this amount of time. It’s important to have outlets for your emotions, as bottling things up and trying to ‘put on a brave face’ is one thing that can make grief last longer. This could mean talking to friends and family, going to counselling, or simply writing things down here on this site.

While you wait for more replies to your post, you may find it helpful to read and reply to some of the other posts in the Losing a Partner section of the site to find others with similar experiences. For example, here is a conversation between a number of people who lost their partners when their children were young:

We also have some information on our website about supporting bereaved children and supporting bereaved teenagers and young people.

If you feel that you might benefit from speaking to a counsellor, we offer a free online bereavement counselling service, which takes place over video chat. Find out more: