I have no idea how to cope with this. I have been trapped in between trying to carry on for the sake of my son and granddaughter and just wanting to be with my daughter, my best friend.
Trying to find help has been impossible and I also found that I darnt say how I really feel (about taking my life) because of the repercussions. I just want to be with her. This life is torture.
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Hi @Georgie-UK ,
I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are finding it difficult to express how you really feel to those close to you.
It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide
There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
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Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
Alternative sources of support for you and your family are:
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Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304
You deserve care and support so please, @Georgie-UK , get in touch with one of these services.
Take care,
Alex
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Sounds like you have been trying to be strong for your son and granddaughter as you are such a caring parent.
Sometimes in tradegy we want to protect our loved ones but we also need support as well. You have had a big big loss and it is totally understandable that you, despite all good intentions need to have some kindness and some support for yourself !
Care for yourself as you do those around you
I lost my 15 year old baby i love him with all my heart. I often want to sleep and not awake to avoid the pain of this burden that we carry. But i feel the need to carry on to prevent more pain to others and also to have the hope that our days will have the light back again. The pleasure and peace, the freedom from the heavy grief we carry daily
Please message me if you want to
Sending love Lynne xxxx
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