Is anyone experiencing grief getting worse (rather than better) with time? I lost my mum 18 months ago. I did fairly well the first 12 months. I was relieved because she suffered so much and I was her carer, so knowing that she was not suffering anymore helped. We were incredibly close. I have no other family to speak of. I was also working and I didn’t feel isolated. I coped much better than i thought, although I cried a lot. Then 4 months ago it all came crashing down. I can’t seem to get better since. They say time helps but it’s the opposite for me. Anyone feeling the same?
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Yes I can completely relate to what you are feeling. I’m so sorry for your loss x
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Fifi: thank you so much 
I’m sorry you’re going through this too. Thinking of you.
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Yes i feel exactly this. Lost my dad in june and i feel each day is getting harder than easier. It may just be because its still so raw. Sorry for your loss, its horrible x
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@Annie2023 yes it’s very raw for you. I’m so sorry. Sending you love and strength at this difficult time. You’re right, it’s a rollercoaster and maybe I just feel it should have got better after 18 months but it’s still a bit of ups and downs. I hope it gets easier for you, slowly and with patience. Be kind to yourself
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Yes I know how you feel. I lost my mam six years ago and my dad six months ago and I was his carer. People say it gets easier but I feel at the moment it is getting harder, I have no one to talk to either and someone asked me how I was just the other day and I admitted the truth I was told you have to get on with life, so I will never tell anyone how I am really feeling again. Take care of yourself you are not alone in these feelings.
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So sorry you had to go through that experience, on top of everything else. Some people can be so insensitive. “Getting on with life” is exactly what we’re doing… but it doesn’t mean the pain isn’t there every day. DM me if you want. Sending you love & strength
Exactly, its a terrible phrase to use, yes life just goes on but the heartache and pain will always be there. My dad told us “it is what it is” when we got the news and that “ive had a good life” its horrible looking back now and just widh we knew but was so sudden, still in shock and that wont go away for a few months at least 
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My Dad died 3 weeks ago . Nearly 4 , I am feeling worse and worse every day . I don’t know what to do . I’m trying to stay strong for my son and my Mum and take care of her . It’s getting harder every day
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My Dad died 3 weeks ago . Nearly 4 , I am feeling worse and worse every day . I don’t know what to do . I’m trying to stay strong for my son and my Mum and take care of her . It’s getting harder every day
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@fede yep, Sorry about the loss of your mum…I’m the same. Dad died in March & it’s really hit me over the last couple of weeks that he’s not coming back. I hate the fact I’m further away from that day & him. I hate that things are carrying on without him & I seem quick to anger these days. Grief is a horrible affliction. I just feel overwhelmed by it.
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