Hi I’m new to this site , I lost my husband to suicide 2 years ago . I work full time and now self isolate. I need help with trying to live again and smile again . I live in sadness
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Hi @Smiler69
So sorry to here of your sad loss of your husband.
Unfortunately we are all on this new journey having to learn how to do things on our own
I lost my husband suddenly coming up for 6months.
Days i manage to keep busy but nights and weekends seem to be long and lasting forever. Dont like the quiet the loneliness the eating alone quess i never will but we have to deal with things slowly one day at a time it will never go away but over time i hope it gets easier.
Please look after yourself
Take care
Lynne x
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Thank you Lynne and I’m sorry for the loss of your husband . 
Life can be cruel, I know this loneliness and long nights . It s got harder for me not easier , I’m sorry to say . I’ve done everything holidays , moved house . Nothing helps , I work . The sadness and loneliness never goes . I’ve even bought a dog . Nothing takes this pain away
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I know nothing ever will take away the pain
People tell you time is a great healer but time might pass but the pain upset will always be in the background. I guess we just learn to exist in this world somehow until the sadness passes i hope that happens soon life is so tough just now
Sending hugs
Lynne x
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@Galaxy75. I was sent the quote below, written by Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy.
She had much tragedy in her lifetime and would know how grief felt.
After 10 months since losing my dear husband, I miss him more each day and the sadness is intense.
Sending you hugs x
“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone”.
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Very true
Take care
Lynne x
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Aw … Have any of you seen the egg theory … on sue ryder website ? So the yellow is our grief and the white is our life after bereavment and the grief doesnt go all together but it gets smaller as our lives, the white bit, gets bigger and spreads out as our lives get fuller with other things and we spread our wings . I think thats a fab theory and gives us hope xxx
@Deb5. It is a good theory and we have to think positively, but easier said than done when we have bad days. Xx
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The egg theory gives me hope that the grief can diminish even a bit. Hope it is a possibility x
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I know … 
god it sometimes feels our misery is never gonna end doesnt it ? Never realised how hard it was gonna be you know xxx
Exactly … that we might actually have some sort of life ? Although on a day like ive had today not so sure @ but u do have a little glimmer of hope and bit of happiness sometimes xxx easy to get bogged down though i find i find it very easy to get negstive again
Aw … Have any of you seen the egg theory … on sue ryder website ? So the yellow is our grief and the white is our life after bereavment and the grief doesnt go all together but it gets smaller as our lives, the white bit, gets bigger and spreads out as our lives get fuller with other things and we spread our wings . I think thats a fab theory and gives us hope xxx
I just wanted to share the link to this for anyone who’d like to have a read:
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