After I recently lost my lovely Mum, I’ve found carrying on living in this house is very, very upsetting. I know it’s full of memories, some good and some bad, but I’m finding them hard to deal with, although I do find some comfort being here. But the constant reminders of what I have lost aren’t helping me to cope with my grief at all. Plus, the house is too big and too much for me to cope with on my own.
I have the opportunity to buy my auntie’s bungalow (she unfortunately passed away in May this year) and it’s somewhere that I have good memories of both her and my Mum.
I just wondered if anyone else had thought about moving after the loss of a loved one, and whether it would be a good or bad idea. I would welcome any advice anyone has about this, as I’m trying my best to make the right decision for me. I don’t know what to do!?
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
They usually say we shouldn’t make any huge decisions the first year, but that’s not set in stone. From what I’ve read here and on other grief forums it’s very different how people react to moving. Some find it’s a relief and others wish they could move back. The only way to really know is to try, but that might be hard if you have to sell to buy the other house. Do you have to decide right away? Is there any way you could move temporarily and see how it feels? I’m still in the house I shared with my dad, big as it is, and can’t really envision moving yet.
After losing my husband this year I couldn’t stand to see our home as it was. The memories were too much, but really didn’t think I could deal with the upheaval if moving either yet, so I redecorated some areas, to help me and my son look forward a little , just enough that it didn’t feel he would come walking back in as usual, but so it still felt like home. But if home feels too much now, I’d see nothing wrong with packing up those memories, and taking them with you to a new home. Good luck.
Im due to move yo my new home in February, I hope to get the keys over the next few weeks but I am having work done before I move in.
Its a big move as moving away from the area I grew up in and moving to a new city, I need to make new friends and find new hobbies. Its closer to my son and my eldest daughter but im leaving behind my middle child. I need to make new memories and start living again, away from sad memories.
so always follow your heart if it feels right do it.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.