Heather, thank you. xxxx
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Thank you Jean x
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Oh Grandma,
I am so sorry for you having to have spent your first birthday if 50 years alone because of your selfish family. There was no excuse for them not turning up and leaving you some flowers and cards on the doorstep. I often think that some families only need a small excuse to get out of visiting us.
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This is so lovely
Deborah x
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With friends like that who needs enemies?!
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@bussteve1 - thank you so much for that poem , it is beautiful. I have asked for it to be read out in my instructions when I pass.
Much love and peace to you
Charm xxx
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The poem will go on my wall so I see it everyday, we are all struggling with our own loss trying to make sense of it all, trying to live Life as best we can under these dark times
steve xxx
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I agree with hat a lovely poem . Thanks for sharing .
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That poem was beautiful. I find comfort in these (& I hope maybe somebody else will too)
You can shed a tear he is gone,
Or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and prey that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him,
Or it can be full of the love you both shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live in yesterday,
Or you can happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he has gone,
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what he would have want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
David Harkins (Silloth)
Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped into the next room.
I am I and you are you
What ever we were to each other,
That, we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
Which you always used.
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Prey, smile, think of me. Prey for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all it ever ment,
It is the same it ever was.
The is an absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.
I found comfort in the words of Heavens now my home.
If you put that in search engine along with comforting funeral song it will bring them up (by Libby Allan) I had the the one that shows a religious building on the first picture and the videos for 3m 49s I had this at Marks funeral I found the words so meaningfull and the images as well (there is also one with a female singer if it’s a female you are grieving) I sincerely hope it will give someone some comfort, but be warned I’m not sure you can listen to it without tears.
Apologies to anyone who has already read this, just thought it may give comfort to those who haven’t xxx
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@Sulane
Two of my favourites. The first two lines of the first one are embroidered in hearts on my memory quilt.
Thanks
Karen xxx
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@Sulane and @KarenF My son read the first poem at my wife’s service and I have used the first two lines on the plaque for her memorial bench. Love xx
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Thank you Sulane,
The first poem, even after eight years makes me cry. The part about closing your eyes and praying he will come back was something I did every single day after my husband died.
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I find the words to the song I mentioned give me lots of comfort (today’s been an especially hard day for me - no special reason, bit as you all know, it can/does happen for no reason! I find my self repeating the first few lines & God told me not to worry
He said you’d be okay
Because eternity is forever
And we’ll meet again someday
Here’s the full lyrics:
I am sorry that I left you
I know you feel alone
God told me that He needed me
He called me to come home
And what seemed to be an instant…
In the twinkling of a night
An angel gently took my hand
And let me towards the sky
As I ascended into heaven
Beyond the pearly gates
The angels were rejoicing
Then I saw His radiant face
God’s eyes shone down upon me
From the glory of His thrown
He said" Enter into paradise coz heaven’s now your home"
I fought the fight I finished the race
Throughout the trial
I kept my faith no longer do I suffer
My body’s been made whole
I am flying with the angels
And heaven’s now my home
God told me not to worry
He said you’d be okay
Because eternity is forever
And we’ll meet again someday
I fought the fight I finished the race
Throughout the trial kept my faith
No longer do I suffer my body’s
Been made whole
I am flying with the angels
And heaven’s now my home
I am flying with the angels
And my heaven’s now my home.
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" You can shed a tear" -
I certainly am reading this tonight.
G. X
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It’s so hard, you feel why me? why did it happen to us? It’s so unreal, you want nothing more than to wake up from this nightmare even though your mind knows it has happened … you still wish. It’s so cruel and heartbreaking but one thing I am grateful for is finding this site and everyone on it, if we can help each other in any tiny way, that must be a positive because I sincerely believe that anyone who hasn’t lost the love of their life you can never understand the pain the pain we are suffering (& to be 100% honest I didn’t until Mark died, yes every member of my family has died and yes I was heartbroken but this is on a different scale) Take care and lots of love & we’ll be there for each other xxx
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