Hi I’m new to all this I lost the love of my life back in January this year after knowing him since I was 18 but we only been today 8 years and in that time we had 2 beautiful children who are 7 and 4 so I’m doing all I can to help our children though this pain as well as myself but it’s hard some days I just want to stay in bed and cry all day but I can’t I have to get up and be there for my kids how do I do this without him I never thought this was going to be our life we had so much plans
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Dear Gemma
I am so sorry you have lost the love of your life too. With two young children this must be a nightmare for you.
There are no answers as to how we all get through the days but we do, one day at a time.
I hope you have family and friends nearby to help you. Please reach out and ask for help when you need it, people often want to help but don’t know how.
There are others in this wonderful group with young children, mine are grown with children of their own. I’m sure they will be along with advice and suggestions.
I know your probably busy most of the day but when you have time search previous posts with any concerns you have. There are some very knowledgeable people here who offer great advice and have been through the same problems.
Sending you a hug, Helen x
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Dear Gemma, I am sorry to hear about your situation. It must be so hard for you to deal with your bereavement and the that of your children at the same time. I would take any help you can from friends and family as you are going to need all the support you can get. I don’t know if you have talked to your GP about counselling I believe there’s counselling specific for young families. Posting on this site was very beneficial for me and I hope you find some solace here as everybody understands how you are feeling and suffering.
Wishing you all the strength you will need
Tom
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Thank you I’m just keeping my head above water most days this is not where I seen my life going we had so much plans and things we was doing it’s like my brain hasn’t except he is gone and I keep waiting for him to phone or walk through the door so each day it’s like losing him all over again
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I know Gemma, that’s why this group helps so many of us. We all know.
All I can say is over time the truly horrible days get less, you will have better days. It’s 10 months now since I lost my wonderful husband who just fell to the floor and was gone. I still think I hear him in the house at times. Our minds play tricks in us. I still have awful days but I have recently had some good ones too.
Talking really does help. Whatever your worries or concerns keep posting or search old posts. Knowing it’s normal to feel whatever your feeling or advice on things like flashbacks (that’s one of the things I searched for) getting advice from people who have lived through it really does help.
I would look for a bereavement group too. Your GP should be able to refer you to a social subscriber who will put you in touch with one local to you, there should be one for young families. The one I go too is mainly older people but there is a councillor there to speak to privately if you need too. Hopefully this would help you and your children.
If I can help Gemma please message me. There are so many lovely caring people here who really do understand keep posting x
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Morning Gemma
I am sorry for your loss It must be really hard with young children. I know from personal experience that bereavement and divorce are not the same . I got divorced a long time I go , my sons were only 18 months old , and 4 years old at the time . It was a difficult time in my life .
More recently I have lost many family members. My husband(he was my second husband) he died suddenly of a heart attack 8 months ago . We had been together for 39 years and married for 36 years . My sons and I have a daughter all grown up . I also have grandchildren.
The first few months are horrible, as time goes in you do start to have better days as well as bad days . Like Helen has said reach out to your GP, and a bereavement cafe .
I hope you have family support and friends.
When you have time keep posting on here , there are lovely supportive people. Many with children like yourself. Take care look after yourself.
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Thanks for sharing this song @Johnr it made my cry profusely but in a good way, and it is so true. Hope you are having a good Sunday
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Utterly beautiful.
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