The disease i had was necrotizing fasciitis a rare disease. I was in hospital for 7 weeks with that. It was nasty but loosing your wife is 1.million more worse .
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Don’t you worry bout ranting Lizzy thats what you need to vent, I can understand your frustration, I think lawyers are guilty of dragging things out cause its more fees for them, I do hope this is all settled soon for you, its dragged on long enough, I have everything crossed for you xxx
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Wishing you all a good nights sleep. I have given in and taken more meds. I would stand no chance of sleeping with this headache. They haven’t worked as yet so I may have to piggy back other pain killers. Fingers crossed I can get it under control.
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Hope the meds do work for you Debsie, and that you get a good sleep.
Nigel xxx
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Night night everyone. Hope you all sleep well.
Nigel xxx
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That sounds goo a good nites sleep what are they never had for a long time. Good night every one xxx
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Goodnight everyone, I hope you all have a good sleep, I’m not sure I will.
I stupidly just read another email from my lawyer, asking my permission to agree on what she is sending the daughter. I’m trying to work out a way of replying to her as I’m not agreeing to her wording again. I’m about to put a paragraph in about breach of confidentiality, I’m the client here and they should do exactly what I instruct them to do. I’m sure they have leaked information to her. My brain is muddled, I might sleep on it, or not as the case will be. Night all xxx
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Lizzy, any document that is filed in the courthouse is public. All communications between you and your lawyer as well as any documents you provided to the attorney are privileged. The attorney is not being paid to make her life easier. Let her go through the process with her own lawyer.
Another good day. That is 4 this week! Had the hair done, decided to not go to dog school as I was exhausted when I got home (4.5 hours out of the house) and I just changed clothes and went to sleep on the sofa. Also decided that tomorrow is my day off and aunt will have to wait until Saturday. Being selfish but, me first. I have too much to do around here before I go away again as it is piling up.
Had a bit of salad for dinner. No appetite. Slept a good 7 hours, but didn’t get there until 3:30am. So late start, but so what?
I am just thrilled that I can put down another bag of rocks.
Almost tossed 2 little pedestal desert dishes that do not match, then realized they are perfect for Stray Cat as she has a problem with bowls on the floor. So crippled up. I took her outside to look around, she did, but then started screaming, so I put her back in her condo and she stopped.
Getting old is hell on all of us.
Love
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Lizzy is there a reason for them to want to tell her? Do they think it will speed things up? I hope you didn’t worry all night. The meds knocked me out. Still have a migraine but not too bad atm.
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Debsie, Glad you had a good night, I wasn’t too bad, had a few hours.
I think she keeps writing to my lawyer, she is not doing it through a lawyer, but she should have paid for a copy of the Scottish Will in the first place as it was registered but my lawyer thought it would be easier just to let her see it. I agreed to it but honestly I’m sick of her, I’m not giving her anything else for free. She is obviously very impatient. She will get a share of any moveable assets but now she has moved onto trying to get her hands on anything in Turkey. It won’t speed things up, it’s now in the hands of the Courts to Grant me Confirmation. She wants to see a copy of that which I’m not agreeing to. I’ve no idea why she wants this.
She will have to obtain a lawyer possibly in Turkey to investigate it, she hopefully will have no idea where to look, I am not giving her any information. If she does manage it my lawyer will deal with it over there. The case has been closed. The courts have dealt with it, we now don’t own anything in Turkey. It would cost her more to take this on and at the end of the day she wouldn’t cover her costs the way my lawyer has dealt with the Estate.
I have been reading up on Executor’s duties, and you don’t have to give beneficiaries any information regarding the Estate. If the Scottish lawyer has done this I will be annoyed and go the whole way and sue them.
I’m really fed up with this mess now, it’s time it was done, every time I think I’m nearly there, this girl puts another spoke in the wheel. Can’t take much more stress. I’m certainly not rushing to send my lawyer the email she needs to reply to her. I need to do this carefully. Two can play at her game, she is more impatient than me.
I will just keep busy today, I’m watching my Grandson on Sunday and will stay the night. His mum going to see Country to Country. Looking forward to spending time with him and a few cuddles from the dog.
Hope that blooming migraine stays away, you’re not having an easy time. Has it got worse with all the stress you have been under?
I hope you have a good day Debsie, we all need one xxxx
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Lizzy, my understanding is that the daughter doesn’t even need to do anything. The solicitors deal with it and also deal with the administration of the payment. So what purpose is there in seeking more information all the time? She should just leave it to the solicitors and the court to handle! I’d be telling the solicitor there is no need for responses to the daughter as everything will happen automatically, and that you’re not paying any costs such work would add.
Surely she can’t touch the value of the Turkey property, as that’s not moveable estate. And it’s the position on the day your husband died that is key. If that becomes cash before the estate is finalised, that doesn’t mean the daughter has a claim or in fact any legal right on those funds. That’s my understanding of Scottish law on this anyway!
Good luck Lizzy. Xxxx
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Thanks Nigel, I agree with you on everything you said. She is impatient and will get something from the movable assets. I also think for some reason she is trying to stress me out for which she is succeeding. My lawyer shouldn’t be answering or giving her any information at all. She has made her claim, now she should get lost and wait like I have to do. Scottish law also says she can’t claim on any property here or internationally so I don’t know what she is playing at.
Can you wave a magic wand and make all this go away please.
Thanks for your support, I really appreciate it.
Hope it’s a good day for you xxxx🤗
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Good morning all hope we all have a good day sunshine here looks nice out xx
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I hope so Dave, you have a good day as well xxx
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I am still out getting tired now
Getting upset now missing my mrs
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Been at work all week probably over doing it.
Went into school and had a dizzy episode. I might have fainted. They called an ambulance 
Very embarrassing.
Might be blood pressure, might be post radiotherapy anaemia.
I was doing so very well with work but I might have over done it.
Now I’ve had to cancel going to stay with my friend.
Lizzy I’m so sorry - no your solicitor should not be giving any details!!! I feel your pain. I’m still in a mess with the pension payments. Makes your tummy feel sick.
Beautiful if cold day here. Ideal day for taking a beast out for a walk 
So sorry about the sleep Debbsie. Something is wrong- maybe it’s time for another doctors appointment? I know we are all sleeping badly but to have the migraine on top.
Leaning into it Dave. Play music, look at photos and recall the memories. Days of loss are good for processing grief.
So let’s make this a good one and good memory day!
My song for this memory would be Salisbury Hill.
Back in 2021 after Covid had finished my husband was too scared to fly and so we decided to have a family holiday at home. We went to Bath and the surrounding areas we went to long Leat Safari Park. I had a new car for my 50th birthday - we bought it in 2020 and this was its first holiday. We went in and the monkeys sabotaged the back wind screen wiper. Dear stuck their heads in and ate the seeds from the children’s hands and there was slobber everywhere. We have a couple of short videos of it happening, which made me laugh.
One day we went to Salisbury. Both my husband and I love Medieval history and we saw the Magna Carta. We then climbed up to the castle on Salisbury Hill and visited Stonehenge. We have some lovely photos for the four of us that day. The kids being silly and us getting caught in the rain. Breaks my heart that will never do that again the four of us, but at the same time it’s one of those memories I want to hang onto however painful- it was a wonderful holiday and I could go on and tell you about the rest of it Paddle boarding, axe throwing, escape rooms and races.
So why not? Share a song and a special memory To go with it? Go on Dave lean into this and share your love story and special moments.
Sending love
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Thanks i have just got
I was nearly crying in the car i can not put fav music on.that makes it worse she loved queen and abba
I just can not play them i just crying xx
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Diggerdave, This is one of the things I couldn’t do at the beginning, listen to music and drive. I cried all the time, I was probably a danger on the road. Over the time I’m coping better, still don’t drive far. Supermarket and the tip. I do keep the radio on as I hate the silence. Always music or tv on in the house, it’s never silent. It’s my way of coping. Stay strong , you will get there xxx
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Ktg, what lovely memories, I have so many memories mostly in Turkey, he loved it there, would have moved there if I hadn’t had cancer then a few years later he had it. Too many health problems. This might be my last holiday for a while, it’s something I will have to adjust to, we used to go away for two months every year.
I wonder what our new memories will be? Atm I can’t see me ever getting through this dark tunnel, I’d love to disappear and only come back when this is all over. Yes I feel sick in my stomach every time I think about it.
Only did one tip run, couldn’t face doing anything else. The elderly couple called but I didn’t pick up and she left me a msg, she has had a horrible viral infection and sounded really bad. Feel bad at not calling her back but not a good day for talking for hours in the man cave. Need a day to myself, reading, sleeping and eating chocolate, cake and sweets.
I treated myself to new trainers in the sale, got £100 off them, think they only had my size left. I know they will fit as I buy the same brand all the time.
I hope you are taking a few days off KtG, fainting is not good, is your blood pressure ok? Maybe time to get a checkup. Are you still getting checked out at the hospital? Be careful driving.
Take care xxxx🤗
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Yes my fav memories got loads of them .one was probably one of the best went to Cornwall great holiday. But it morning the car inside was soaking wet .forgot to close the sun roof that was funny.so we stayed around were we was staying great memories xxx
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